Been with my GF for 14 months now and I have a baby girl with her.

Now, since we met we have split up around 5 times (that I can remember). Most of the time it was her dumping me then asking me back 2-14 days later.

The good times are good. The problem is half the time I feel like I'm walking around being/feeling p*ssed off!

Before meeting her I had been single for a long time and really enjoyed going out sarging, f closing left right and centre and spent time with other friends socialising too.

Since the last split (which was the longest, 14 days) I've started listening to PUA CD's and reconnected with my old sarging buddies 1 by 1! They say to 'stay in the game' as it will help me realise what the f*ck I really want and if she really is right for me - which I think is a good idea.

I don't get on with any of her immediate family, 2 sisters and mum, they all see me as some sort of tw*t lol and they don't hide it much (especially 1 sister). Even my gf tells me this!

She spends a lot of time slagging people off and UNFORTUNATLEY I reckon it's starting to rub off on me - which is not good!

People have commented that she rarely smiles and she has been known to stalk me and threaten to smash up my car and other looney business when she last dumped me because she knows I will start looking elsewhere and knows what I was like before meeting her.

She lies about things and I have to catch her out before she tells the truth.

She accuses me of cheating on her for simple things like going on FaceBook, changing my shower gel (smells like womens perfume on me according to her).

She's threatened to try to ruin my life if I walk away - even when she dumps me!

Her ex is a freak show to say the least who's on the dole and takes dr*gs and takes every opportunity he can to tell me he f*cked her recently! (he cheated on her).

The positives? She's reasonably hot (used to be a model), can be a good laugh, good in bed and mother of my daughter who I adore.

Sometimes I think maybe I should cheat on her and see how I feel then. If I do this and get caught I know it's probably over for good as she wouldn't like it!

Peace bro

do you guys think this relationship is a waste of my time?

I think your situation is pretty difficult because of the kid involved. A women displaying such behavior to her man is to be punished mentally. You need to (re-)gain control of the relationship. At this point, you are certainly not controlling things. Ideally, the control should be devided 50-50, but I guess it's 80% (or more) her and 20% you.

I don't want to give you bad advice, but the fact is that, despite the kid, she does not really show the devotion to the relationship as much as you are. Instead, you are making up for her faults. I think you need to do the following.

Make clear to her that you are not the one with whom she can play endlessly. BTW, you should have done this from the very beginning but probably you were afraid to lose her earlier (before the kid was around). Guess what? It's better to lose such a person than being, in the case scenario, the play tool for the rest of your life. In the worst case, she will tool you up to the point that she simply does not enjoy tooling you anymore. At this point, she will cheat. A time later, she will leave. Imagine what kind of situation is this for a man who did his best make the relationship work.
So I think you should make sure she understands you love her and the kid and that you want a good, healthy relationship, but at the same time you want her to understand as well that you are not a tool and don't put with anything, despite the kid. It's a difficult situation, but you have to deal with it, there is no other way. I would not cheat on her, again for the kid's sake. Nonetheless, it's good to show her some of the aloofness on your side. Have some nice surprises for her. Try to spice up the relationship a bit. But don't do all this nice stuff before she understands that you are not her tool.

I don't know what to tell more. Good luck!

I think your situation is pretty difficult because of the kid involved. A women displaying such behavior to her man is to be punished mentally. You need to (re-)gain control of the relationship. At this point, you are certainly not controlling things. Ideally, the control should be devided 50-50, but I guess it's 80% (or more) her and 20% you.

I don't want to give you bad advice, but the fact is that, despite the kid, she does not really show the devotion to the relationship as much as you are. Instead, you are making up for her faults. I think you need to do the following.

Make clear to her that you are not the one with whom she can play endlessly. BTW, you should have done this from the very beginning but probably you were afraid to lose her earlier (before the kid was around). Guess what? It's better to lose such a person than being, in the case scenario, the play tool for the rest of your life. In the worst case, she will tool you up to the point that she simply does not enjoy tooling you anymore. At this point, she will cheat. A time later, she will leave. Imagine what kind of situation is this for a man who did his best make the relationship work.
So I think you should make sure she understands you love her and the kid and that you want a good, healthy relationship, but at the same time you want her to understand as well that you are not a tool and don't put with anything, despite the kid. It's a difficult situation, but you have to deal with it, there is no other way. I would not cheat on her, again for the kid's sake. Nonetheless, it's good to show her some of the aloofness on your side. Have some nice surprises for her. Try to spice up the relationship a bit. But don't do all this nice stuff before she understands that you are not her tool.

I don't know what to tell more. Good luck!

go to www.wikipedia.org and search for : Borderline personality disorder
2 nd search for bipolair .

im sure she has borderline if i read your story ...... do you want to live with that ? ....

Thanks for the posting guys - still going out sarging and meeting new people - building my skill set up