You're going to lose them. You have to let them be free, do their own thing, you can't be around them 24/7. Recently my girlfriend has been hanging out with her other friends (more than she used to) while I've been busy moving into my new house. Last night she sent me a text that said, "Its nice to know you'll still love me and trust me when I go out without you. You are honestly everything I've hoped for in a guy." I simply responded with, "Its nice to know you won't abuse that trust like some other girls would." This both let her know that I do trust her, but also that if she did abuse that trust I would drop her (she knew that from the beginning). I know a lot of guys, including my friends and I'm sure some of you guys, who would get mad at their girlfriends if they went out without them. Let them go do their own thing, they will be grateful and respect you a lot more.

And if she cheats on you, so what? It was bound to happen sooner or later, now you won't waste your time any longer. Sure, you will be hurt for a week or whatever, but then you'll realize there was nothing you could do and you'll move on.

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i totally agree ....

but if your girl goes out 3 or 4 times a week you know enough.......

last time i checked i wasn't hurt for 1 week... took me few months to recover.
if you really love some one and your married or together for years ( kids maybe involved ) then you really care.

if you just know a girl for 2 months then wtf, just get a new one. The best mindset in a relationship is '' i don't fucknig care and don't worry'' the more you worry and brag the more AFC you are.

if a girl cheats on you then she's not worth it .. it always feels like it's your fault because you didn't do good enough at certain points.. NO it's not your fault she is just a slut......

my fiance was pregnant she took an abortion at the hospital without telling me. I knew she was pregnant(of me () but 2 weeks after i found out - she was cheating on me ( 2 weeks after abortion) . she was messing around with another guy and she manipulated me and accused me of everything. she even deliberatly told me on the phone it's all my fault and lied to me .....

now 6 months later i can really say she is just a slut... and it's not my fault it's always ugly when such things are out of your control - and if it's out of your control then how can you be responsible ? Other people can be so messed up, but everyone's defenition of love and life is different, it's such a shame that we don't know a person loves us before we hurt that certain person.
humans have the habit to destroy , love and destroy again - we only know how much we love until we catch some ''punches'' when the damage is done.

in my opininion if you cheat .. your just a scumbag...

awesome awesome awesome post 96firebird!

i think guys should always try to find a balance. smothering is a big problem that AFC's do when they get into a relationship. i agree, smothering will kill the relationship.

at the same time though, being too distant will also kill the relationship.

therefore, i think the solution is to find a good balance between the two.

If you game a girl correct i used to tell me ex i was sleeping round girls houses. She hated it but she didnt want to risk loosing me thats why im the boy.