so me and my girl have been together for 3 years and some change. recently she told me she thought we were over. She said she no longer gets the butterflies that she used to. but i have recently wanted her more so its kind of a wierd situtation. i convinced her to give me one more chance, but she seems predetermined that we are done. this is my situation somewhat summed up, what can be done to help keep us together? if possible

Here's what's up...

relationships are a lot of work, that is the outright truth, theres no spark anymore because theres no challenge, notice you're chasing her, shes the challenge so you want her, BUT you are no challenge for her. You have to think long and hard, evaluate your relationship for what its worth, do you really love her?


Even if you do, the only real way to get her back may be a hard painful way that involves a break and you seeing other people, right now you dont hold enough value in her eyes, do you understand? I've been with my number one for over a year now and shes NEVER felt shes totally had me

I dont see her all the time, i make other things priority over her, she knows my career and the gym among other things come BEFORE her, i dont disrespect her, dont misunderstand me, the point im making is that i have so much going on in my life that im still a challenge, even after a year, to spend time with

Hot chicks can have whatever they want man and there will always be some beta male trying to give her just that, but what they really want is that challenge.

ya know...and think of it like this, i say this with conviction too man, like i've been there, but you have to think logically when things are driving you emotionally in order to make the best decision. emotion tells you, you want her and only her, but logic says that if you guys took a break and started seeing other people you could find someone totally way better than her.

and thats the truth kid

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amen brother well said.

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Think logically, not emotionally.

Ok heres what you need to do tonight! Call her and tell her "I thought about it and a break is a good idea. I have alot I want to do, and I have alot to think about." leave it at that! why? because right now she knows she can have you when ever she wants and she is taking you for granted....when you are gone from her life and you dont give a shit she will prob realize how much you did for her and what a great guy you are.

Dont call her, dont txt her....do not talk to her for atleast 2 weeks! atleast! and when you do dont bag her or ask her anything other then how she is doing? let her do the talking and If she want to get back with you then you need to stand your ground and tell her your not a fool and your not just going to jump back into a realtionship with her...tell her that she hurt you and if she wants you back she has to earn your trust back, she has to go on a couple dates and then you will see if you still feel the same way about her.

By the way in the two weeks you are away from her I want you to go pick up a new hobby, go out to the clubs with your budies atleast 2 times a week, and enjoy life....not only is this good for you but it will show her that you dont need her to be happy. In other words it will shock her...and hey mabey you will like being single and want to stay single?

Right now your problem is you are rewarding her for bad behaviour. thats like giving a dog a treat when it shits on the carpet...doesnt make much sens does it? you need to scold her and let her know that your arnt going to wait around...dont be a dick just dont be a pussy either haha be the balls!

well too late. she broke up with me last night. i wanted another chance but she says she doesnt seem the point. i found out today she was going to the pool with a guy. i mean im typically a fairly cold emotionless person but between last night and today i have brokedown to a point i have never been to. i mean i want here back, to the point i would do anything. now is there anyway to get her back?

well too late. she broke up with me last night. i wanted another chance but she says she doesnt seem the point. i found out today she was going to the pool with a guy. i mean im typically a fairly cold emotionless person but between last night and today i have brokedown to a point i have never been to. i mean i want here back, to the point i would do anything. now is there anyway to get her back?

DUDE

PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER

I was there a number of years ago, I know how you feel and I know it hurts, but read what I wrote to begin with, my first reply still stands as the truth, don't waste anymore time with this shit, find other chicks! That is the only way to fix how you feel

Cowboy the fuck up

- d mid out

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thanks alot guys. we have been doing the friend b***S**t for the past few days which has been akward because i still kiss her and other stuff. i can tell part of her likes it but shes is to predetermined on us ending that shes afraid to admit it. last night she told me to stop doing the physical things, that there was no point. the night before she told me that doing these physical things makes her scared because she fears she might get to comfortable. so if you were goin to give it your best shot would you keep plugging away to put her back in her comfort zone? or how would you treat her?

Ignore her for a while, go out and do your own thing. You can't be friends with her, and she doesn't want you to be her boyfriend any more so why stick around? Read a few other threads about how you can't be friends with your exes if you want them back, but really. Why the hell would you want to get back with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

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I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

so we did the friend thing for the past few days then last night i exploded. lately she has felt the need to have this bitch shield up with a sense of arrogance that i have never seen before. last night when i was playing the friend role i finally lost it and told her everything negative feeling i had towards her and that with the shit she pulled shes not even friend material and to never get it twisted because i never want her back. so this ended with her pretty much running away. i wanted her to feel whatt i have felt except i couldnt run from it when i was in the situation. Theres is some missing information im not sharing with yall about the breakup but lets just say her timing to break up with me was during the hardest time in my life and she knew and didnt care.

You should move on, and keep limited contact with her until you get your shit back together as seeing her as a friend will continue to fuck you up mentally, and destroy your confidence level.
She is trying to move forward and so should you, I am apologise for being so hard on you but I was in a similiar situation and my friends gave me solid advice that I ignored for days until one day I realise how I was making such a mistake by trying to win her back, when I was just pushing her further.
No break up is convenient! Just need to get back up on that horse when you get knocked down.

Good luck.

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thanks everyone yall have been somewhat like a guiding light. lol now i need to brush up on how to game girls