OK, I am actually embarassed to talk about this. But my gf is sending me texxt that are starting to inch towards the sexual nature - and its not that I dont like it. Its jus that am thinking this is going quite fast ( only two months of exculsive seeing each other) and we are quite young - both 16 years old. The problem is I want this releationship to work and well I do not want sex to ruin it if you know what I mean.

Sex is a important thing in releationship and well - I was hoping that I had a more fondation in the relationship before we start sexing. I even hope to have sex after marriage (some may pretend they never read this ). The thing about this girl is that she is very shy in real - life as in extremely shy - she would be described as a "good-girl", but when it comes to texting - it gets dirty . I guesse i kind of bought this upon myself as I did build a huge amount of sexual tension.
I also think it my be because this is my 1st time, that I maybe still adjusting to the fact that WOMEN LOVE SEXXXX, some more than men. Lol plesae guys, dont nag me on how much women love sex, cause you probaly can tell from the fact that I am even writting this post that I have some idea.
So what do I do guys? Do I countiune escalating or not? Talk about sex or not?

sex her up my man. two months is plenty of time to have your relationship be of meaning. its not just a random hookup is what i'm saying. you should have a conversation with yourself about what you really wanna do as far as the sex before marriage thing goes. if you absolutely don't want to then you should probably be forthright about that with your girlfriend. if not, then what are you waiting for man

peace bro

First of all your 16 so just chill out and be smart! You are being very mature about this whole thing and that is good! I honestly dont think highschool sex is a good idea because at that age you are not old enouph to face the consequences.....now that being said you will prob do it any way so make sure you wear a rubber!!!! and try to make sure she is on the pill (be smart!).

Honestly highschool relationships are some what a joke (not to be rude) but when I look back on highschool and how serious I took every thing I wish I would have just chilled out and realized that at 16 the person I was with was not the person I was going to marry....have fun, if your dont wants to have sex right away then just tell her and dont act like a afc about it....tell her why and take your time! your young brotha....lol


The best advice I can give you is dont grow up to fast...I know at 16 your think you know the world but just enjoy being 16...be a kid, go party, have fun, and dont worry about women because they will come and go.