I have an ex, I want her back. She LOVES to have power over men, which stems from her parents relationship.

She's EXTREMELY insecure, and goes after men with an extremely lower value. Guys 4 years younger than her, the kind of guys that she KNOWS she can NEVER have a future with. White trash guys who sit around smoking pot.

She feels intimidated by me. She's scared shitless of getting hurt by me, its all apparent in her body language when her and I hang out. Her and I dated for 4 years and split up 8 months ago. When I dated her, I was an EXTREME AFC. I split it off because she became distant, and it became toxic for me.

Her and I hang out occasionally, and when we do, subconsciously I can tell she wants me back. She shows me alot of IOIs. Last time we hung out, I kissed her, and she kissed me back, then she froze me out.

How do I get her back, get her to trust me, but without letting her take control of me?

You already have the upper hand by knowing her inner motives for dating how she dates (unless you are just fabricating it in your own mind). SO if what you say is true, if you look at the information you already have the real answers you are looking for.


Number one: If she is an EXTREMELY insecure woman and goes after weaker men, then what do you think her interest in you is or was? This in and of itself should be worrisome.

Number two: Unfortunately you are over reading into kissing with her. She obviously knows she has you as well. The key is to concentrate on yourself and give yourself more male capital or worth in her eyes. If she thinks she has you already, believe me you’ll never get her.

Number three: If you two are hanging out after the split then you probably still have feelings and having her around you while she is dating or doing other guys is just wrecking your own mind and frankly she has the upper hand in this also. She is playing around with other guys; you’re sitting on the sidelines analyzing everything.
Number Four: Remember you split for a reason. Normally when a woman starts changing with a man there is an underlying reason that you do not now about. If you where smart enough o cut her lose before then trust me man its smart just to move on.

My opinion let her be man and work on yourself. If this is a woman who is insecure and likes to manipulate men, then she is going to flip out when you start acting differently. Her system is going to go hey wire while your becoming more of an Alpha Male type. She ill see that she doesn’t have you when ever she wants you and this will make her want you more.

Hope this helps you.

D

_________________
When it came to dating I was a slow starter, that's why I can relate to so many and that's why I'm here.
Guys in this day in age need all the help they can get.
My Blog on which dating systems work: http://datingguidesthatwork.blogspot.com