i ran into this problem when i was out one night. the girl i was with started dropping iois to this new guy at a fairly fast rate (eg hair flicking, leaning in, laughing alot at whatever it was he was saying etc). while she was there chatting away to him, both of them half flirting with eachother, i was left there speechless beside her as i felt my value start to drop faster and faster..

anybody have any methods / ideas on how to overcome this little hump?
thanks
joe

Girl you were with? O.k., was she a friend, someone you are dating, someone you are 'trying' to game?

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Okay sometimes read into things a little too far. These are all things that girls do even when they aren't flirting so you cannot base you argument on these things. Girls flick their hair to get it out of their face. Girls (and guys) lean in when they can't hear someone, and girls laugh when something is truly funny (go figure). So before you get all stressed about this take a step back and realize that she may not have been flirting hardcore like you thought.

Now, that said, there is a chance that all those things weren't just a coincidence and she was flirting. In that case you need to step up and be a man. If you just sit back while a guy is flirting with your girl and you get pushed out of the conversation, that just looks bad. It looks like you have no backbone and people can step all over you. You don't need to tell him to get lost (unless he is really inappropriate) because that will make you look jealous and secure. But you need to send a message that she is your girlfriend and you can't be pushed around.

This is pretty simple to overcome. You need to insert yourself between them, not necessarily physically, but metaphorically. Introduce yourself to the guy, firm handshake so that he knows you are a worthy adversary.

I personally will gauge the guy to see if he is on my level, If hes not, I will let him chat her up, why not, ya know? If the dude does have game I will stick around and begin interviewing him. Can't remember who came up with this tactic, but its been around for a while, maybe TD?

The goal is to make him seem boring; What do you do? Where are you from? etc. etc. For whatever reason the female mind, when not properly stimulated, gets bored, FAST! She will begin to lose interest in him; you are cutting down his state and the fun vibe simultaneously... This works MOST of the time. Because she already knows youre a cool guy, she will associate the boringness to him. I know right? trips me out too.

If he's a pro-bono pediatrician who frequents third world countries to administer booster shots to the poor however, you may be fucked! "touche my good man, touche"

If he knows what you are trying to do (which will be rare), you have to step it up a notch. I always keep it in good fun; fuck with him, he fucks with you back, before you know it you are guys are friends and he should back down. If he doesn't THEN you can start to make it clear that he needs to move on. And if he STILL is persistent, its time to blow him out. "But seriously, are you on drugs or something? You dont look so hot." "Are you sick or do you have a cold or something? We aren't interested in catching anything."

You get the idea.

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