I met this girl in my freshman year of college (roughly 10 months ago) and we hit it off very nicely. I soon found out that she had a bf and i was disappointed. However, she admitted to liking me, and even told her bf that, which made him cry pretty hard. Eventually, roughly 2 months ago, she decided she liked me more than him and dumped him for me which of course is fantastic. We have been dating for a month now but we fight a good 5 times a week because of my jealousy. she wants to still be friends with the guy she just dumped (who was her only serious bf before me, she lost her virginity to him and they dated for 2 years). The fact that she wants to stay friends is KILLING me and it makes us fight quite often. i have tried to tell her how bad it makes me feel and its hurting our relationship but she says she has no reason not to be friends with him. she told me that he will be living on her floor next year in a dorm building so she will most likely see him a lot which i HATE. He tells her that he loves her still but she doesnt say it back thank god. Every now and then, pretty much every week he asks her to hang out with him and talk and she agrees. He tells her that he needs her back because he cant even function with out her but she tells him that she is with me so she cant. she tells me she has no feelings for him but i feel like she may develop feelings for him again if she keeps talking to him. Any suggestions on how to save my relationship? Thanks guy
Grappler

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Do the opposite of what your doing.

Jealousy = insecurity and will kill your relationship, if it hasn't already.

You gotta realise you cannot control her, if she cheats firstly she is not worth it and secondly anything you do to try control her behavior will only make her rebel/do it sooner.

Good luck mate

Jealousy = insecurity and will kill your relationship, if it hasn't already.

Agreed. And I guarantee she is loving all this attention from 2 men. She will keep this going as long as possible.

The trick here is not to focus on saving your relationship, but to realize it's no big deal if it ends. This will change your perception (which will change your behavior) about the whole thing. Once she sees this change, you will gain her curiosity back.

Don't struggle with thoughts of what he is doing, focus on staying 'detached' from the situation. I know it's hard, but you will be miserable if you don't.

Her IL (Interest Level) will raise for the guy showing her the least attention.

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Keep telling her she can't go see him, force her to stay home and cut off all contact with him.

Then post here and let me know how it turns out...

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