hey guys.
i use to be a player and now i liked a girl and she is with me in 5 months relationship and i said her i love her and proposed her for marriage also.and she said that she wants to spend life with me as a answer of proposal. well here is a problem that i live in her house and every night i am going there to sleep with her. and i feel like i am much needy and i talk a lot abt marriage and many things. she is officially not divorced with her ex husbend. which i came to know when i said her i love u after dating 1.5 months.
i feel like that she dreams him and she likes the man who have the same height like her ex and many things i have a fear that i will loose her. because she is not officially divorced but she lives separate and her ex husbend saw me any times with her. when she talks to her ex it is hard for me. may be to documents reasons, i have a fear that she like the man like her ex and i lost all sense of humor which i had earlier. and i am spending my all day with her as now are summer holidays, and just 4-5 hrs apart and then in night again i sleep with her. so i have no life . i feel like if i wont meet her i will loose her ,and i really want to marry this girl in true because i love her. and i say her i love u more than she says me. please help me out.
also when there r parties with couples men and women,my gf talks with men and all the time and shld i talk to girls ???? also she broke up with her ex husbend abt 9 months ago. i am fucked up guys. this happend to me first time. what to do . i want control over situation and want her to say me love u and miss u like stuff. and may be u know the books for relationship maintainace . like for pick up r books. i shall be highly thankful to u guys.
thanks alot

Sorry, don't mean this in a degrading way but it sounds like you have some definite confidence issues. She talks to guys... is it in a flirty i wanna fuck you way or just a casual way? There is such a thing I feel as 'safe flirting' but it requires the up most of confidence and commitment from both partners.

Tricky situation with the ex husband, where is that in the process of being. Just watch your not getting burned there. Does she talk to him on a regular basis? Or is it just over divorce matters? What happened to your sense of humor and your player confidence that's what attracts women, maybe you should spend a little time on your own again and find yourself. Don't get lost in a relationship by being that needy, you lose your friends, you lose your life, you lose you. And that is something that take time to rebuild. The mental ramifications of her making you feel insufficient are very hard to overcome in the future. Believe me.

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thanks man for the reply,
well she is not flirting its casual way but i feel like i wil loose her when she talks to some handsome tall guy than me. and she talks to her husbend for divorce issues. but anyway i dont like her talking with him in front of me. i told her and she agreed this today.
she and her friends were always saying that i am not serious with her when i was joking and confident and else u know girls slowly slowly kills and leave u when u dont have confience. and we r not meeting or going to clubs or bars without each other, so i cant meet other girls for confidence. and also i live with her and in summer nothing else to do just talkings and to go somewhere with her for walk and near lake dont know what else to do. i am totally bored and i think she will be bored too. but she says that she loves me.and she does . but i am jealous when she talks to beautiful and taller guys like her ex husbend use to be. this makes me scare that she is imagining and talking to others tall and beautiful guys by thinking of her ex husb.

Just a question bro... Why do you love her? Do you really love her? Or the idea of having someone? You shouldn't be feeling like this.

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you don't trust her and you don't trust yourself.
now you are already damaging your relationship by thinking and feeling this way.
you shouldn't be feeling this and you shouldnt be thinking this

sit and think why.

is it worth it ?
is she worth it ?
can this relationship be stabile for you and her?

if you got an answer post again.