This is the situation:

I've been dating this girl for 2 months now, i'm 21 and she's 17. She even lost her virginity to me.

But this the problem: She told me that she likes me alot and is attracted to me,
but she is just not in love with me, and now she wants to end the relationship because of that....

I've had this problem before and i'm not trying to hard or anything..... why won't girls fall in love with me? What am i doing wrong?(i'm not ugly or boring at all, and i've used the material really well)

true love takes more time to grow.

i think girls will end a relationship with a guy for typically 1 of 2 reasons. either you are becoming too afc, or too pua. you need to balance thigs out and do some push/pull.

obviously at some point you were doing things right because she started dating you. you have to think back to what changes occured and how your behavior is different now.

This depends upon the girls that they will love or not.....Its not a serious matter as u think about it.....

She told me that she likes me alot and is attracted to me,
but she is just not in love with me, and now she wants to end the relationship because of that....

f*ck it, move on. She is 17 anyway, you can't even go out for a drink with her. Don't grovel, make excuses for yourself or try to change. Your response should be 'o.k., that's cool, take care of yourself' and be done with it.

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Well... in the Netherlands i CAN take her out for a drink(age for alcohol is 16). I guess that i couldn't even have sex with her in the USA since i'm 21 myself.

But back to the point.... your totally right about how i should react. However it turned out that she didn't want to end the relationship, but basically just meant that it's nothing more than "fun" for her. I'm fine with that ofcourse .

"She told me that she likes me alot and is attracted to me,
but she is just not in love with me, and now she wants to end the relationship because of that.... "

She just want to break up with you. It's just a text which has nothing to do with "love". There could be fucking much reason fer her to do that if you still don't found it out it is almost impossible.

Let her go and get another chicks.

You have to practice thats all.
If you become more attractive (confident, a leader, good story teller, playfull push/pull, and NOT needy!! ) they will fall for you. You have to find your "weakness" and improve them.

Love is a very fluid state. At 17, they are little girls and not women yet & mostly wanting to 'experiment'. You triggered the right emotions in her for her to have sex with you but again she isnt chasing you and hence you aren't interesting enough for her to be in a relation with you. Move on Period and dont blame it all on you.

I know im new to the boards, and I dont want to make any enemies, but dude 17! wtf is wrong with you, go hang out with someone your own age. girls at that age cant even make proper decisons. hell it might even be illegal depending on where you live, eithe way its sick.

now that that is out of the way, be happy shes not in love...you are like the first guy I have ever heard of who wants the girl to become crazy attached, you are 21, time to spread those social butterfly wings.

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shes just not ready.......

maybe it has gone too fast and like marc said you triggered the right triggers for having sex but not for love.

don't defy her and don't behave like its a big issue
shes young and probably she doesn't even know what she wants or needs , do you want a relationship with someone thats insecure ? NO because it isn't stabil.
never go into a relationship with someone thats insecure , do you want to end it now ? or do you want to end it over 6 months when your 10 times more emotionaly involved

what you should do is invite her over AND YOU SHOULD BE THE ONE THAT BREAKS UP no matter how hard it is.
if you break up you still keep your reputation etc, end it before she ends it.
she RESPECTS YOU she is being honest about her feelings, what shes actually saying is that she doesn't FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU but loves you in another way and that a relationship cannot be build from that.

if she breaks up with you she will also get a huge ego boost
believe me you can't save your relation ...... break up with her and FREEZE her out for a period of time. If you dont hear anything from her ..... then she wasn't interested at all.

do what you like - you can change yourself and your game and maybe create attraction and the right triggers, but even after hard work it can have 0 % result.
or do you move on instead of wasting time ?