Hey all - here's my collection of MLTR tactics that I wanted to pass on. My own approach to MLTRs is different, but certainly borrows from some of these.

In any case, it's a big file, so I've divided it into 3 posts.

Enjoy.

Post 1

Zan's powerful technique (Designed for MLTR's)
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Zan writes:
I don't know if this has been suggested before. I have read most of
TFM and lots of the archive and don't remember seeing anything like
it, so I'm sorry if this is not new.

(Subconscious interjection: Move through life without apology, Zan!)

Wait a minute! I take that apology back.

I haven't heard anyone mention something like this but IME, it is a
very powerful technique. Here is the essence of it: Profess your
undying affection and devotion to the girl - and then NEXT her.

When to use this? When you have seen her several times, you have had
great rapport, but now it feels like she is starting to flake. If your
thing with a girl was hot at one time (she tongued you down, lots of
EV and talking, etc), but now you sense the whole thing is starting to
drift towards LJBF land, and you have nothing else to lose, try this.
It just might help to resurrect a moribund relationship with a girl.

Or if you really like a girl but you have done some stupid AFC moves
(and who among us haven't?) and she is starting to lose interest, try
this.

I have used this before to devastating effect. It sounds very AFC at
first blush, but hear me out. Notice the difference between these two
paragraphs (which I just made up and are cheesy, but it's just to
illustrate what I mean):

AFC: I think about you day and night. You are so beautiful and I adore
you. I can't wait to see you again.

PUA: I think about you day and night. You are so beautiful and I adore
you. But now I must go. You have touched me on a very deep level and
it is more than I can bear. I am helpless before other women and I
will only hurt you and myself. I can't see you anymore.

Say the first phrase to a girl and she thinks "Ha ha, I have a yappy
new lapdog. Buy me dinner!" Zero challenge; she has already won.

Say the second phrase and it throws her into a whirlwind of emotions.
Her whole world becomes the cover of a romance novel. Her nurturing
instinct kicks into high gear (after all, you are a victim of your
desires and she must save you). She knows she is about to lose you.
And she senses that you are about to run to the arms of ten other
women for comfort.

It is very powerful. But the key is that she has to know that you
really mean it. It has to be believable. You are *really* not going to
see her anymore. And you should believe it too. After all, it was
going cold already anyway and she was probably going to LJBF you.

And this is important - say it and then split. Get the hell out of
Dodge. What I have found is that in a lot of cases, she will become
obsessed with you. You will be bombarded with emails and phone calls
from her. It is almost impossible for her to resist this challenge.

She almost certainly will try to coax you back. But only if you do
this move while your rapport is still fairly strong and things are
still going reasonably well between you two when you ditch her.

And when she contacts you, you must remain congruent and never let her
feel she has you. From this point on. And the beauty is that you *can*
go back to seeing her, but now you are the one with value. You are the
prize. And you are the one that appears ready to leave at any moment.
She WILL work to keep you.

And you have established the fact that you see other women and you
can't help it. And she can't complain about this because you told her
the way you are and that she might get hurt. But she still wants you
anyway.

I pulled this on a girl recently. We were making out and I was kissing
her neck and stuff and we were both feeling really good.

Using a poem from the manual (and slightly altering it), I said
something like:

ME: (kissing her neck and talking very slowly) You know what I am, HB?
I am your teardrop... I was conceived in your heart... I was born in
your eyes... I live on your cheeks... and I will die on your lips.

Then while lightly kissing her lips, I said some variation of the
adoration / Nexting phrase I mentioned earlier. And then I got up and
took off.

This girl was almost certainly going to flake out on me, but now she
calls me every night, wants to see me, understands that she is not
exclusive, wants to save me, etc.

In fact, I have used this as a way to establish almost every one of my
MLTRs.

Try it...
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ENTROPY4's Fuck-Buddy Creating Tactic
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Entropy4: She let on that she had just come out of over three years of
relationships and had honestly never actually "dated". This explained
a lot about her behavior during the night,including her prudish behavior.

Me: "You seem like a very 'all or nothing' kind of girl."
HB: "Yeah, I guess that's how I've always been."
Me: "I used to be like that. I dated a girl for three years, but since
we broke up, I've just been living in the grey-area."
HB: "What's that?"

Learn this routine fellas. I've used it 3-4 times now and it's money:

Me: *Raises hand at about neck level* "If you think about
relationships, and you say up here is a long-term relationship, with
full commitment." *Puts other hand about a foot below the top hand*
"...and down here is just a one night stand, absolutely no emotional
involvement at all. Well, this area in between the two..." *pointing
to area between hands* "...is a grey-area full of all sorts of
interactions and relationships that two people can have. They can be
just as fun or as fulfilling as either of the extremes, both people
just have to be honest about their expectations."
HB: (they always say something like this) "I've never thought of it
that way."
Me: "Yeah, and you can even move back and forth in this area as the
relationship evolves."
HB: "I like it."
Me: "I do too. I think it's perfect for people our age, and in our
position."
HB: "I guess I'll just have to be honest with you."

This sets expectations -- she knows you'll care about her even if you
aren't fully committed to her. It will ease her as to what you expect
from her, and it'll even DHV you because it's such a fucking clever
way to look at the whole damn mess

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Heartwork's Anti-Relationship (But still keep the girl) Script
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People that know me know that one of the last things I currently want
in my life is a serious relationships.

Also being a younger guy I've dated a large age group of girls and all
the girls my age are always dying to get in a relationship.

Maybe this just happens to me a lot, but I can think of numerous
occasions when me and a girl will be having a fantastic time, but all
of a sudden, things seem to halt because she wants to know "where this
is going?" or "if we are actually boyfriend and girlfriend"

Truth is, I love girls and don't want to loose one from my life
because of forced relationship non-sense, so I have developed a script
I say EVERY single time to keep the girl around, but stay out of
relationships.

Here it is:

"Listen _(Girls Name)_, I love the time we spend together, we always
have a great time. However you need to know that I am not the kind of
person that jumps into a relationship. I feel like too many people do
that and they end up ruining everything and that is the last thing I
want to happen with us. The main reason I feel this way is because
when I commit to a relationship, I go all in and I don't half ass it.
So until I feel that I can give the full commitment and give us what
our relationship deserves, I just want to continue to have a great
time together. Okay? (Small kiss on the lips, pull back, make eye
contact, and smile)"

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This shit fuckin works, I have given it to tons of my friends and we
all remain happy singles with a huge social circle of girls that want
to fuck us.
What is special about it, it makes it seem like by not being in a
relationship, you are actually making the relationship between the two
of you stronger!
Everyone wins.
Especially you Wink

Good luck!

Love,
Heartwork

Post 2

(AFC) Adam Lyons MLTR Tactic from ‘Being Promiscuous’
The Theory
The more truthful you are the easier it is to handle multiple relationships.

Each girl you meet should be added to your circle of friend first, so that you can observe her group of friends and decide whether she is the best girl to be seducing in her social circle..

Get a fun, flirty vibe going without actually closing her. Create a situation where the girl is visibly flirting with you, yet because you don't allow the situation to ever escalate into anything deeper (at least not for now) you end up with a tremendous amount of pre-selection and, more importantly, if the girl is asked about you she will have nothing but good things to say.
Bingo! You've passed the first stage. You have managed to meet her friends and benefit from the pre-selection. You have access to a bunch of girls who will happily flirt with you, introduce you to any new friends from their own respective groups, and, in short, boost your access to the female group tremendously.

What you need to do now is to choose the target.
Some key considerations:
1) Girls don't accept upgrades. You need to close the hottest girl in a group first. If a girl perceives herself as “better looking” than a girl she knows you've had previously within the group it almost makes you off limits.
2) Stay away from girls in relationship. You end up getting a reputation you really don't want.
3) Watch for girls with reputations themselves. Sometimes the hottest girl has a reputation for being a) psycho b) a player or c) “tainted.”

The Escalation
This is where the start of the real MLTR game begins. The key here is to build up a healthy balance of both sexual energy and escalation, whilst being clear about your overall intentions. The real key to pulling this off is to ensure that you keep the sexual energy running high. In order to do that effectively without interruption you need to be thinking of isolation.

Isolation serves an additional purpose for you in these situations beyond the normal understanding of isolation in game. Your isolating not only needs to ensure that escalation is easier so the social group doesn't judge her for being to promiscuous but you also need to protect your own social value.
Once in isolation you can begin to really increase the sexual tension between you.
What you're seeking to do is build up the situation between you to a place where you know the kiss is almost guaranteed. Then this is where the gamble comes into play.
To pull off this feat you will have to display the characteristics of someone already in MLTRs, namely the willingness to lose the girl you're with.
So in the middle of or before sexual escalation, though directly after the first kiss, you need to make it incredibly clear that you're not looking for an exclusive relationship. It’s not really my style to break down exactly what to say, as I really don't agree with routines, so instead I'm going to leave you with a list of guidelines of topics that really should be included in this breakdown.

1) You're not interested in an exclusive relationship, but more importantly a realistic and logical reason why. Good examples include: Concentrating on work/studying; waiting to find someone that you really want to begin a relationship with but don't want to rush into anything as it takes time to get to know someone properly; just come out of a relationship and don't want to rush into anything else yet.
2) You don't believe in one night stands, because they are just too impersonal and unsafe.
3) You really like the girl as a person, and would love to spend time with her beyond this night, that you think the two of you would cause a lot of trouble, go to some amazing restaurants, party harder than anyone, have great sex and still be good friends years into the future, with no strings or pressure.

Throughout these topics you're essentially describing the ideal situation for an MLTR. Essentially. a good “friend with benefits.” Add that you're only telling her these facts as you believe in telling the truth completely and then everything is set for her to accept the frame of the MLTR.

Bare in mind a couple of factors:
1) Even if she says no, she will still continue to spread the news of how great you are, the kiss was there, and she'll also be preaching about how honest and upfront you are which further increases your standing in the group.
2) You are in the middle of sexual escalation, she really shouldn't be thinking of anything other than how much she wants you. When women are ready, they don't tend to back out.

VIDEO BONUS- One of the best ways to attract girls is for them to see the other (higher value) girls that you’ve dated.
When you’re about to kiss the girl, but before you to- this is the time to set the boundaries of the relationship that you’re going to have with her.
“Hey listen, ya know it’s really really cool meeting you but I shouldn’t have let things go this far. You need to get away from me.”
“Why”
“I’m a lot of trouble. Have a look around the room here. See that guy hitting on her over there, and that guy flirting that girl over there. I’m really dangerous, because I really know how to pick up nearly any girl I want. I’ve been flirting with you, and it’s been really good fun, but I’ve let it go too far.”
At this point she’s not going to protest that she doesn’t believe you, and you say “No, seriously. I study psychology, and I’m very interested in what attracts people. I’m not saying that I can get absolutely anyone I want, but I have a very good chance of getting a girl. And I’ve been flirting with you and this is great fun and everything, but I’m really not in a position to set up having a proper relationship with you. I make a terrible boyfriend.”
“There’s only two kinds of girls in this world and you fall into one of these two categories. There’s the kind of girls who, she meet’s a guy like me and she’s up for having fun. She comes to some wild, crazy parties. We’ll go out and be good friends for a really long time. Go to some great restaurants, hang out with some really cool people, have incredible sex. Go out, and chill out and party with friends in the evening, and maybe go out bowling or what-have-you and just be good friends that last for a very long time, but with no strings attached..”
“Or you’re the kind of girl who when she meets a guy like me she thinks she can change him. And she thinks that she can get him to be true and sit down in a relationship, and unfortunately, I can’t be changed.”
“So, if you’re the first girl, then you know, we’re going to have a lot of fun. But, if you’re the second girl then you need to step away from me now because this really isn’t going to work and I don’t want to hurt you.”

We’re forcing her to choose her own label, and she’s unlikely to choose the second. Why?
First, the first type of girl is described as a fun person with lots of great characteristics, who has lots of fun. The second girl is described as someone who wants to change other people, something your girl is unlikely to want to label herself as.
Second, the choosing to be the first type of girl doesn’t require her to actually DO anything, whereas choosing to be the second type of girl requires her to take action (step away from you), which she’s unlikely to do because she’s physically have to walk away when she already really likes you and was about to kiss you.
She’ll probably say “Well, what if I’m the first girl?”
“Then come here, and we’re about to have a lot of fun.” Then kiss her or somehow sexually escalate.


The Future
Ok, so you've managed to get a few girls to accept the idea of a no strings attached relationship, but how do you maintain them over time? Well, providing you've laid down the ground work correctly you really shouldn't find them too difficult to manage. Keep honest; don't rub the other girls in their face and you should really find things run quit smoothly.
Naturally things won't work well forever though. After a while you may find that they try to either leave the relationship or turn it into something more serious. A few things may slow this process down.
1) Don't meet up with them too often. Any girl you see only once a week is unlikely to try and claim you as theirs.
2) Make sure you don't just contact them for sex. It's important to do things beyond just sex even if it's only a meal or to go have a drink with friends.
3) Avoid the deep conversations. Keep things fun and friendly without ever dipping into the realms of getting them to help you with personal problems or vice versa. Although this is possible to do, it can make things incredibly messy and is probably best to be avoided when you first start running MLTR's

Eventually, however, things are likely to fall apart with a girl. When they do, simply remember to tell the truth.

If they're looking to remove themselves from the situation, tell them you're cool with it and would love to keep them as a friend with no further sexual contact.
If they're looking to make the situation a little more one on one, then simply repeat the fact that you need things to stay the same, and if they aren't happy with that then maybe it would be better to just let the relationship end.

When you’re in an MLTR, if she wants to see other people, LET HER! Don’t come across as selfish and hypocritical. It will ruin your reputation.
If you end up spending too much time with her or otherwise let the relationship get too serious, and she’s trying to pin you down into monogamy, just repeat the “two types of girls” options and stand your ground that you’re not interested in a relationship. If she STILL tries to pin you down, stop seeing her. This will avoid bad drama..

Now these things sound easy in print but when it actually comes to doing them it can be a lot harder. Losing a girl you've been intimate with for a good few months can seem almost devastating, especially if you've been through those situations before.

With proper MLTR's you may find things a little different. If carried out correctly you will find it's actually a lot more manageable as you have something you probably didn't have before. That is abundance. By having a number of girls to fall back on, no individual girl should carry too much importance. When one leaves you still have the others.
As long as you understand that from time to time you will lose one or two and need to keep topping up the number, you should find the entire process is incredibly easy to manage. It is arguably easier than just one girl, because the girls realise that none of them has any control over you individually.

post 3


LANCE MASON’s CASUAL RELATIONSHIP TACTIC
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FROM: Zero-Drama-Dating


The Anime Girl vs The Nunn
The female emotions and body are like a little girl, totally driven by her emotions in the moment and totally expressive of what she is feeling.
The female intellectual mind is like the Catholic School Nunn who makes the rules and keeps her out of trouble.

Her Body
Mostly, you want to be relating to the little girl. She’s the one who decides whether she’s happy in the relationship or not, and she’s the one who enjoys interacting with a man the most.
The girl intuitively trusts anyone who makes her feel good and feel safe.

Her Mind
Whenever you make a girl VERBALIZE herself, and say what she wants or feels, that’s when the Nunn takes over. The Nunn is in charge of what a woman says, but the little girl is the one in charge of what she does and how she feels.

Disk 2: Dating Multiple Women

Dating multiple women

Start out all relationships (even ‘the one’) as casual, and let them gradually (over 2-4 months) grow into whatever they’re meant to be. Let the emotional intensity of the relationship develop gradually. Do NOT snap into ‘serious relationship’ mode, and do NOT ever formalize it by sitting her down and telling her “I’m going to be exclusive now.” Continue doing things with her the way that you’ve done with your other girls. Now is not the time to do something that you don’t have as much experience with.

The Challenge of Dating Multiple Women

For four years, Lance dated a girl who knew he was dating other women- and there was no drama. Then, she saw him in a bar with another woman and she flipped out and broke up with him.
Do NOT rub your dating other women in a girl’s face. When she has emotional trauma about knowing that you’re dating other women, that is what will make her break up with you.
Don’t say “I like you, I just need to see other people” because she will replay that sound-bite over and over again in her head. It’s also rude.

How to Communicate With Her

Lance hates ‘The Ethical Slut’. The author’s don’t think the way that normal women do.
“Open Communication” is a cure for feeling guilty that you’re dating multiple women. But, if you didn’t feel guilty, you wouldn’t need to sit the woman down and ‘get it off your chest’. It forces the responsibility onto her, which isn’t fair.

If she tries to sit you down to tell you that she’s dating other people, say “Oh no, not the talk. I don’t want to have the talk! What are we, in high school?”

REPROGRAMMING- Whenever she asks a question, that you know she’s not going to like the answer to, like “how many women are you dating?”- don’t answer it, instead make her laugh.
Her response will be to ask again. Give a joke answer again. Intellectually she’ll get the hint eventually, but just as importantly you are making her laugh and have fun every time that the topic comes up. This avoids the emotional pairing between the emotional experience (fun and laughing) and the intellectual knowledge (you’re dating other women).
Never give a woman bad news without making her laugh.

Skydiving VS Bungee Jumping- In skydiving, the intellectual understands that you’re falling- but in bungee jumping you see the ground close-up and you get scared. (an emotional response)

If she’s been hurt in the past and won’t accept the joke answers, and she has a bad emotional response, then you need to do soul-searching and have a deep rapport story for why you are dating multiple women. Then you have a deep emotional connection with her on the topic, and MIGHT be able to make her feel safe with you dating other women.

Communication Q&A

On average, women don’t seem to be ‘programmed’ to feel emotional connection with more than one man, but most men do seem to be ‘programmed’ to feel emotional connection with other people. Don’t tell her that she should date other people, she’ll try it and won’t like it, and she’ll blame you.

Zero Drama Dating

If you’re going to date multiple women, you need to learn to interact with women in a zero-drama way.
There’s no such thing as a relationship with ‘a little bit’ of drama. If a woman has a little bit of drama in the beginning of your relationship, then it will grow and get worse as time goes on. As soon as you can see that she has some drama, move on to another woman.
Do not have an ‘acceptable amount of drama’ mentality, she’ll keep hovering at your threshold, and pushing the limit.
Keep the relationship casual and don’t accept any drama. If there is some, walk away.

How Close Should She Get to You?

When she asks “Hey, are you dating other people?”, or ANY other emotionally loaded questions, what she’s really asking is “How close should I get to you?”

Your unspoken answer should be “not too close.” – this is to protect her from getting too close and having her heart broken.

You CAN’T let the relationship become LESS close without causing huge drama. It can only comfortably become CLOSER. She’ll be hurt by it, and it’ll get be possible to get closer again. When you understand that intimacy can only more closer, you’ll intuitively know to take it slow.

It is YOUR responsibility (not hers) to monitor how close she is, and manage it. You probably aren’t very good at it yet.

If you’re seeing someone 3 times a week, then you are in love. Accept it. There’s no such thing as a casual relationship 3 times a week. If you SMS her 3x a day, then you’re not being casual.

What creates intimacy and closeness?
Touching, spending time together, grooming contact (SMS’ing each other), having sex, sleeping in the same bed…

If you want it to be casual, don’t meet her friends. As soon as you meet her friends, then you become her boyfriend in their eyes and they ask about you… forcing her to see you as her boyfriend.

Disk 3: Creating Casual Relationships
Casual Relationships

[Offhand statement- If you don’t spend the night with the girl after the first time that you have sex, you’re in a casual relationship.]

You should learn how to create an extremely casual relationship dynamic. You already know how to create a ‘dating’ vibe, so here’s how to do casual-
Having a date on Friday or Saturday automatically sets a non-casual (or ‘dating’) vibe.

The nature of the relationship ‘resets’ right after the first time that you have sex. The morning after the first time that you have sex, she’s wondering whether it will be casual or serious. If you want to keep it casual, you need to avoid developing too deep of a rapport with the woman at this moment. Just be light and playful.
If she starts to get upset or sad, but then you try to comfort her, she’s learned that creating drama gets her what she wants (in this case, the closeness).
So, as soon as she starts to ‘cling’ more than you want- brush her off, she gets upset for a second and then when she doesn’t get what she wants, she realizes that you aren’t like the other guys that she’s manipulated. You’re different.
If she persists on “why won’t you see me on Saturday?” then make a couple of jokes about having dates with strippers in your jaccuzzi. If she continues to persists, ‘brush her off’ saying “Look, I really like you- but I don’t do drama and I care about you and I’m not going to talk to you this way, because you’re angry. And, the truth is, that I’ve done nothing wrong. And I just don’t allow people to be angry at me when I’ve done nothing wrong. And, I want to talk to you again when you’re not angry. And if you’d like to talk when you’re not angry, I’d love for you to call me. But, I’m not having this conversation right now, because I haven’t done anything wrong and I’m going to go now. “

In short, “I’ve never misled you, and I care about you, and I’m going to go.” She will get angry at you and be upset.

All that you’re really doing is defining your rules for relationships. Your only real responsibility in the relationship is to answer the question “How close should I get to you?” with an answer that you’ll follow up consistently.
The alternative to setting these clear boundaries is to say things that let her get too close, so that a month from now she gets hurt, and sits up all night crying.

Building the Foundation

When you get up, don’t have breakfast with her. Don’t spend the day with her. Say “I have a place I need to be”. Tease her about having appointments with strippers if she asks where you need to go. “Are you a private investigator, etc”

The last thing that you say to her? Say “I’ll call you.” Then make sure to call her soon. Probably later that day (at lunch), and leave her a courtesy voice-mail or in person message saying “Hey, I just wanted to say that I had a lot of fun right now and I wanted to call. I’ve got a crazy schedule right now, and I’m working on my schedule, so I’ll call like Wednesday or Thursday. Yeah, I’ll call you Thursday- because I really want to see you again.” Then, get off the phone.

If she doesn’t talk to you or see you for four days, she won’t develop too strong an emotional connection. Equally, you said that you really want to talk to her and see her again. So, now you call her back Thursday and say how you got your schedule together and it’s crazy busy, but you want to see her again. Lets get together Tues-day (A day that you know she can’t do) Ok, how about Thursday (one week from now)? That works? Ok, great! Lets do 7:30 on Thursday. I’ll see you then!” And get off the phone.

She now has a plan to see you again one week after having sex with you. You’ve been totally clear about what to expect from you, but doing everything that you said that you would.

Giving a Clear Signal (That this is going to be a casual relationship)
Make the fact that this is a casual relationship clear, but don’t ever verbalize it. She’ll appreciate this as the best casual relationship she’s ever had, and how smooth you are.

(Optional- do this for a while, then decide whether you like it)

To send the clearest possible signal that this is going to be a casual relationship. Call them up the day before the date, and say “Something came up, but I really want to see you. Can we meet later? Yeah, I know… I’m really busy. Can we do 9pm?”
A 9 pm date is a booty call, they all know that.

If you set your NEXT date 1 week ahead again, and maybe even do the 9pm tactic again, then she will learn to understand and accept the casual nature of your relationship.

The best way to start a serious relationship is to treat it as a casual relationship, and continue dating other women. Then, gradually (over a couple of months) let those other relationships ‘die off’ until you just naturally end up in a serious relationship.

Casual Relationship Q&A

To regulate how often she communicates with you, just respond to them with the frequency that you want her to communicate with you.

Q: How casual can you make the relationship? Can you see her every 6 months?
A: No. When it gets to seeing her once a month or less, women lose interest and don’t want anything to do with it. The exception is if she lives in another city. Then you can hook up whenever you visit, no matter how infrequent that is.

The rule is: that if it seems like you were trying to see each other, and it ‘just happened’ that you didn’t see each other often- then that’s ok. If it looks like you planned it or manipulated it into happening, then that’s bad. Always just imagine that she calls her friend and tells them what’s happening and imagine what they would say.

Q: How many do you have ongoing at one time?
A: Having 2 girls isn’t enough, you need at least 3- probably no more than 5. Less than 2, and you don’t have enough options in life and you over-invest in them. More than 5 gets to be way too much work.

Q: How long to casual relationships last?
A: After 6 months, her friends start asking “Is this serious?” Drama often starts here, so make the commitment or get out.

Disk 4: Surefire Step to Keep Her Faithful

Answering her Questions
When she asks questions like “are you seeing other women”, it’s easier for her to accept it when she sees it coming from far away.
What you want to do is give her the information in a fun, playful way LONG before she asks.
Grant’s story: He has a PDA fanny-pack that women always asked him about. He tells the story the first time that he meets her in a painfully slow and deliberate way, which communicates that it’s important to him. Now she’s really interested. Then he’s tell about how when he got his PDA he was really close with his computer, and he spent a lot of time with it. Then he realized that there were some things that he wanted to do, that he couldn’t do with his computer. Sometimes he would be away from his computer, and he’d need something. He realized that there were some things he needed that the computer couldn’t provide. He couldn’t blame the computer, because the computer was great. So he got the PDA, and he thinks that the computer started to get jealous of the PDA.
She asks “Why would the computer be jealous?”
“Yeah, I know. I think that the computer realized that I used to do all my email on the PC, and now I was writing most of my email on the PDA, and the computer realized that I could access the internet on the PDA. Then in the morning’s I’d try to boot up my computer and I’d get all these system errors and that little hour glass. And I knew what was going on- my computer was just not happy.”
“And it just started acting up, and this was really a tough time because I really missed my computer. And the truth is that I really needed the computer in my life because there were a lot of things that I could do with the computer that I just couldn’t do with my PDA. This is where I wanted to write my documents, and do the analysis for my business. It was really essential to my life, and for the first time in my life my computer wasn’t there for me. It was just causing all this drama and honestly I didn’t know what was going to happen. I was really worried for a while that the computer wasn’t going to work out for me long-term. But I noticed that over time the computer started to work again and I noticed that my relationship started going back to normal and eventually it just kind of worked out. My computer just kind of understood that I’m there for him, and he needs me, but I can’t provide him with everything- so when he has a need that I can’t fulfill, I really think that now the computer is happy to know that when I’m away from my computer for whatever reason, the computer is happy to know that I have this thing that can satisfy my needs.”

The core of feminine energy is just that she wants to take care of her, and for you to take care of her because you care about her. So, she gets it and thinks “This guy has such a pure and honest view or relationships.”

Jealousy

Many women will act out jealousy because it gets them what they want from men. Learning to tell the difference between real jealousy and the jealousy ‘script’ is really easy with experience. (Imagine a kid having a real temper tantrum or a fake tantrum to get iced cream)
When you get the fake jealousy, don’t reward that behavior.
When you get the real jealous (a quiet sad, somber feel), it’s because you let her get too close to you. If you go into emotionally deep with her to deal with it, then you’re making the relationship too intimate and it’s going to hurt her worse when you pull away again. If instead you say “I feel really bad that I hurt you, and I made a mistake- but I’m doing nothing wrong and I’m not going to let you be angry at me. I hope we can be together, but right now I’m going to go.”

If you 1) Keep her happy, and 2) protect her from judgement, hen she won’t get jealous and won’t want to be with other men

Keeping Her Happy

The two keys to getting whatever you want in a relationship:

Primary- Keep her happy under any circumstances. If she’s happy, she’ll be ok with you dating other women. Whether I’m the one who makes her happy or not, I need to make sure that she’s happy. If she’s happy, the relationship will be good.

Secondary- Protect her from judgement. Keep your relationship private. Protect her from reputations or judgements.
Hillary Clinton was furious because Bill Clinton got caught, and didn’t protect her reputation publicly.