Text Messaging (Do or Do Not?)

I have read a lot of material about how to get my girlfriend back. I understand I stopped being the masculine male I was. My plan to move to NYC that I developed into her plan is taking me longer than her. Which lead the balance of power to move away from me. I understand completely why she left me.

We broke up three weeks ago. She moved to NYC then too. I am still in ATL taking all 4 parts of my CPA this month. I will move to NYC as soon as I am done. But, she does not know this completely, because I have a job offer in Texas.

1) I stopped talking to her for a week.
2) Week two and three I reached out to her and we have had contact every day for 2 weeks. Yet, I am making about 90% of the communication contact and effort.

Everything I have read says the more I contact her makes it easier for her to heal. I feel she does this I got texts this week at 12 at night about random stuff. It hurts when I reach out and get nothing. She is holding all the power.

So I am taking her out of my life for at while. Get myself back. But, everything I have read says if she calls be nice talk belief and get off the phone. I am long distance it is hard till I move.


QUESTION: Over this next period of time which I get my life back together, study, have a blast, and convey I don’t need her approval, what do I do when she text messages me?

Is the only reason she is texting me, because she feels lonely, and I am the quick fix? By not responding does that make me an ass/jerk?


I just want to know someone’s ground work on text messages right after a break up. I am not going to text her, but when she texts me do I write back? I mean I can be witty and phone, vague…. I know all the tricks. But, if I want to be back with her does texting back show self worth in me?

What are the rules for texting after break ups and I am 1000 miles away. That throws a loop in the situation.


Kind Regards