So I did it all, I grown from nowhere to a nice 22 years who has a nice life, success (business wise), more sports like, social and outgoing. I came a long way in 3,5 years of which nearly 2,5 years of own self improvement without the community.

My last relationship broke up after 1,5 years mainly because it was never good enough, I couldn’t stop the hunger to be better. Also I got some sort breakdown every 5 months, mainly because I became (or I AM) another person.

Now I just started a new relationship with a girl that’s more outgoing, flirty, social, then my last girlfriend. Now the weakness in my inner game is tearing me up. I know I’m good enough for her. But when she opens facebook to look who her new co-worker is and she makes a happy sound when he’s “hot”, when she flirts with her boss, or when she goes out with groups of guys.. I feel pain..

I then tell myself Its okay, I know it is, she is not that kind of girl (friends known her for over 2 years) So I don’t want to start a discussion about her.

I need to know how to not care, how to strengthen my inner game

Bro,

I just read Locke's post on the 10th page of "Ask Locke" that might be able to help you out. Its about general jealously and the ways to deal with it in a relationship.

Im certainly not a relationship GURU but I would say that having those jealous feelings when she talks to other guys is completely natural and I have those same ones too. However, I have enough a) trust and b) confidence in both myself and the relationship to know how to handle these feelings. I almost start to embrace the feelings of jealousy cause it means that I truly care yet, I never get angry at her (unless she crosses the line/cheating at which point I would step in and directly address the problem to her face).But...You would be suprised how most girls dont even realize they are flirting when they are.

Anyway, just chill out, embrace and let her enjoy her friends or hot coworkers or whatever...there not the ones that are banging her- YOU are.

I hear ya foundation. I'm in the same spot with my gf of 6 months. It's hard not to feel jealous or a bit afraid. It's worse for me bc I'll be starting a ldr! I'm lookin forward to what others have to say

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