Ive been chilling with this one girl for about a month now. We both like each other and weve even made out in the back seat of my car multiple times. We talk for hours and text constantly. She has an abusive boyfriend that shes been going out with for more than 2 years. She tells me that she doesnt love him anymore. She doesnt even reply back to her boyfriends texts or calls because she really doesnt seem to want to talk to him any more but with me she constantly wants to text and call. I really like this girl yet she doesnt seem to want to let go of her boyfriend just yet. Im in a dilllema because i really want to be official with this girl and dont want to constantly go behind peoples backs to kiss and get intimate with her. I dont want to wait forever for her. What should i doo?? should i wait till she breaks up with her boyfriend or just let her go??

You pretty much have three options...

1.) Wait until she breaks up with her boyfriend...this could take a long time.

2.) You can ask her to break up with him and be with you, or you're done because you're tired of sneaking around. I doubt she'll be strong enough to do this yet based on what you are telling me. Thse girls tend to flounder around a lot until something really dramatic happens and they have to leave these type of guys. I don't know what it is, but many women like this end up in another abusive relationship. Just because they can't HELP they are attracted to that type of person, and they wonder why it happens, because they don't fully understand it themselves.

3.) You can walk away and save yourself some heartache.

All the options are yours to pick from. I WISH YOU LUCK.

Jon

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Tell her to call you when she gets her sh*t together.

I know she is enjoying the drama and attention you and her abusive boyfriend are giving her, but I'm sure you can live without the headache. Besides, you don't need a jealous boyfriend kicking your teeth in.

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Try not to get beaten up boy her abusive BF because he could be reading your texts!!

She is not leaving her BF because she is still probably attracted to him. She would take the drama because she just CANT HELP IT. This guy keeps her on her toes, she doesnt know what to expect from this guy.

Ok tell me one thing. Did this girl have a very strong dominating father while she was growing up or did her mother divorced her father and remarried.

Could you kindly let us know this.

Not all girls have daddy issues. Listen it probably has nothing to do with the guy. If she breaks up with him, it means everyone she knows will know that she left him for another guy. That's a lot of social pressure you're not realizing. Not to mention the fact that it is naturally hard to leave someone you've been with a long time, because it feels like all the time and energy you've invested in them will be wasted. Breaking up is hard for everybody regardless of background.