Let's say you once had a girl fall for you a long time ago, but it didn't work out because of long distance. So you 2 cut off all contact for almost a year (except a few times you'd have a friendly conversation with her), and she ended up finding someone else and falling for him.

Then you end up planning to move to the same area and she finds out so she starts talking to you more. You also find out that her and the other guy never took off, and they've had a lot of problems but she still has crazy feelings for him while he doesn't want to give her a chance because of trust issues (this has drove her even more crazy). Hell, he doesn't even want to be friends with her anymore.

Is there a "best way" to jump into this and rebuild the attraction that you had with her and win her over the other guy? I may be over thinking it and it could be as simple as starting over like when I first met the girl, but with another man in a girls mind it seems like some extra things need to be done.

Basically, I see a lot of things to say to a girl to make her think about you. But now when I talk to the girl, I feel like if I'm saying something she'll think about the OTHER guy so I hesitate to say things now.

Be the best guy you can and don't worry about the rest. Be a man. That's very charismatic.

Stay in touch, keep your presense known. Don't back away. Make sure that your encounters with her are very postive.....

If you can build some report,,,, tell her "I want you". Forget the other guy.

You sound whipped over an ex?? your going to making yourself look weak going for her. Just move on there's plenty of girls out there if she wants you she will chase you and compete with the rest of the girls for YOUR attention..

be a better man..

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

Wow thats pretty weak inner game bro. You need to fix that. Having that kind of mentality pretty much ensures you'll be into LJBF land.

Just read as much stuff as you can to try and correct that behavior. Invite the girl out to a casual lunch one day and just experiment with it. Remember the encounter you had with her and post any questions you have on here and see if someone can help you.

I met one of my current FB's again after having little contact with her for about 2 years. Somewhat similar situation to yours. I basically did kinda what you mentioned "it could be as simple as starting over like when I first met the girl". Met her for lunch one day, chatted her up, caught up on the last 2 years, transitioned to sex talk, she told me she had a bf, didn't call here again, she calls me 2 weeks later having broke up with the bf the night before and is drunk and wants me to come over, the rest is history.

Wow this sounds familiar, what city do you/her now live in? If its calgary does her name start with a "K" last with an "A" i definately know her then!