I love my girl, unfortunately there is 7 hours of distance between us. This makes things really hard. For the past 4 days, things have been completely dead. I tried to flirt with her but she didn't flirt back. Jokes aren't doing any good (not actual jokes, but just being funny in general). I took it a step further yesterday and I sent her an email saying how much she means to me and what not. And now I recorded a song for her (she has yet to hear it). None of these little things have worked and things are still dead between us but we haven't broken up.

It's usually little things like this that keeps us alive, especially with the distance. But like I said, these things aren't doing justice now. Any suggestions? Should I just back off for a while or what?

I'm so desperate and I don't know what to do. Just so you know, we're extremely close. We lost our virginity with each other and things were perfect between us. The changed happened all of a sudden.

"desperate" is a good word to describe how you are acting my friend and I am hear to help you out lol

First and for most I want to tell you a little secret that took me year to learn! Men make decisions logically and women make them emotionally. This is how women are built and you need to learn how to tune into a womens emotions! this is no joke this is the 100% truth! you can get a women to do just about any thing if you can reach her on an emotional level. What makes sens to you does not to a women! You would think "I gave her a gift, wrote her a letter, and told her I loved her....it would make sens that she would feel all warm in side? that what I would do if this happend to me." But she is thiking "...he doesnt get it....Im bored".

Second you are not calibrating! by not doing so you are pushing her away. Think of it like this...would you reward a child for bad behavior? No....so why reward your gf when she treat you like shit???? You need to read up more on calibration.

Third as much as you might like a women you need to have the attitude that you love her yes...but there are millions of other women out there and you will walk if she treat your poor! My gf know I am head over heals for her but she also knows I dont put up with shit! she knows I could go out on any night and pick up if I wanted to! I dont rub her face in it but she knows....

Right now you are acting like an AFC! Its ok to care about a women and let her know but you also have to stand up for your self and be confident or women will walk all over you!

You teach people how to treat you my friend.

You are so right! I used to be way different, and eventually I grew dependent on her.

Thanks.

man im in the same situation and thats by far the best advice iv ever heard! wtf happend to me lol its kinda crazy how one girl can get a hold on ya like that. thanks man