Hey guys, since I started visiting this site, I've only read what other have posted and have really learned a lot - so thanks to all of you for that. Now I was wondering if I could get some of your advice on something.

Basically, over the past couple weeks, I've started getting this suspicion that my girlfriend has been lying to me about a few things. I finally looked through some texts on her phone which confirmed my suspicions. My questions is this: how can I confront her about it without mentioning that I was sneaky and looked through her phone?

I'm definitely one who likes to think before acting so your suggestions are definitely welcome. I just feel that if I confronted her right away about it, she'd get really defensive and things could get nasty.

Thanks dudes!

Reading her messages sounds like jealousy and paranoia. It's that kind of behavior that leads women to do shady things behind your back to begin with.

The last thing you want to do is come off as needy or effected by text messages. DON'T tell her you read them. It's a good way to lose trust.

A close friend of mine dated a model, and based soley what she did for a living, he was head over heels for her. He would search through her shit and read her e-mails and get jealous when guys hit on her. It only pushed her further away. So what did he do? He tried to win her back... through pity. He played the pity card.

"Well I read your e-mail and you went behind my back and said this and that and blah blah blah..."

You're not going to spark attraction or deepen attraction by making somebody feel sorry for something they did to you. You just won't.

My advice: keep it to yourself for now. There's no good way to call somebody a liar. Start worrying about your relationship instead, and why she'd do anything behind your back. If it's as simple as her not being satisfied, that's preventable.

Good luck, man.

- Roy

Well the way I see it, that was just cheeky and disrespectful of her privacy. Unless she handed you her phone and said, "Look through all of my texts" then you had no right to take her belongings and dig around... unfortunately, that shows insecurity on your part which needs to be worked on then.
One lie leads to another. I say you either come clean and be truthful with her or you don't bring it up at all.

Just out of curiosity though, what is it that you were "suspicious" and right about?
You don't have to share if you don't want to.