It seems I can get into a girls pants quite easy, but after that i feel like shit. Making girls happy = me happy to a certain extent. I like to love and be loved. This pua stuff makes me feel sick sometimes. How do you cope with hurting girls and using them. I love sex and one night stands, but this gets ridiculous. I just got broken up with last night b/c I got caught cheating and I'm thinking I want to be a good guy, to a good girl. I need help and advice.

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Let me tell you a story...I was at the bar one night with my boys when I got the bright idea to show how good I am at picking women up. I walked up to an HB 9, laid down some game and with in 10 mins I was grabing my coat and we headed back to my house to have sex...my friends wer in shock! jaws on the ground and I felt like a champ! well we fucked and the next day I woke up and took her home....I have never felt so bad about a hook up in my life bro!! I felt sick to my stomach because of the way I treated her and because I could have caught somthing or got her pregnant...still have not talked to her so for all I know she has my child haha

Let me tell you another story....I meet a girl in the bar, talk her up, lay down some game but this time since I can tell she is a "good girl" or atleast I think so? I decide to go on a couple dates. I take her out, we hit it off, we start seeing each other....we wait a month to have sex....we have sex and a week later she is my gf...she is still my gf and I am head over heals for her! shes amazing!

So you tell me what story sound better? lol One night stands are over rated! They might look cool to your friends, and feel cool in the moment but there really not worth it.

I used PUA to find a women who was a perfect match for me....I dated and banged many women but at the end of the day I ended up using the game to meet my gf who I would have never had the balls to talk to 3 years ago when I was an AFC.

It sounds like you're going for quantity rather than quality. Sure, you can use your skills to meet a lot of different women. But you could also meet sexier, nicer, more interesting women instead, and keep them around for a while. Nobody needs to get hurt- I think the campsite rule is a great thing. Maybe you should aim for some quality MLTRs, or even just that one really amazing girl, if what you're doing now makes you feel so guilty.

Then again, no matter what game you lay on us, chicks are still capable of making decisions. Even though we are a bit more driven by emotional/ irrational forces and gut instinct, a lot of it just boils down to how comfortable we feel in a given situation. A lot of these women probably expected and wanted a one night stand, and didn't feel too hurt afterward. If you need variety, maybe MLTRs are for you?

You cope with it by not doing it. Nothing in any PUA material I've ever read says that you should cheat on your girl - that was your choice.

My advice to you would be to stop committing to LTRs or even dating a girl exclusively until you're absolutely sure you can be faithful to her. If you still desire one-night-stands, then you probably shouldn't be settling down at this point in your life.

If you're driven by a desire to be in a loving relationship, however, then do it - just don't make it exclusive. It's very much possible to be best friends with a girl, see her all the time, and have you both love eachother a great deal, and you can both fuck other people on the side.

Figure out what it is you want and go for it man, unapologetically. Write it down and start thinking about how you should present yourself in order to attract exactly what it is you want.

If you want an LTR without the limits of exclusivity, then be honest about it with the girls you decide to pursue. Or, if you don't like the idea of her seeing other guys, but still would like to enjoy sex with other girls, then go after bi-sexual chicks who are into threesomes - AND LTRs with men.

Recently my g/f FINALLY admitted her bi-sexual tendencies (i've been calling her on it since we met - lol) and let me tell you, being honest about what I want has gotten me a long way towards actually getting it.

This also eliminates the need to hurt or use girls... unless they want you to of course