im posting this really quick because i have to be off to class shortly and didnt have time to read around to see if this topic is somewhere else... anyhow, i've been in a relationship for about 3 months now, intially there was lots of sex. good sex. now recently, when i try and make a move on her she says, "all you want me for is sex" and she pretty much controls when we have sex now. how do i get things going back my way. i mean we dont have to have sex everytime we are together, but damn its been almost a week now. even when i try to discuss it things start to go down hill. i want to be her but im in need of some poon tang. although since being in the relationship my world has started to revolve around a lot. need some advice. well i've got to get to class, look forward to some help.

you could try a new approach to the topic, instead of saying "wanna f*ck" or whatever, make it a little more romantic so shes more emtionally charged. Or if u know a simpler means of getting her emotionally charged just do that, if u could even try to anchor that feeling to a certain touch or something and than touch her in that spot a make her recall the emotions when you want to have sex again. best regards

I would show her that you want her for more than sex. Romantic type stuff but don't let it become a trade-off between the two like "You have to do X to have sex." Put her in the position of chasing you again.

Girls are told by their mothers, friends, and magazines that they have to make their men work for sex. They think they can control men with sex. When she said that all you want her for is sex, she was saying that she wants you to work for sex by taking interest in other aspects of her.

In my opinion, it would be AFC to give into this and actually be romantic or whatever to EARN sex. That would be you chasing her.

As for the PUA way...maybe freeze her out. Hang out with her but don't express an interest in sex. She'll get whiplash and suddenly fear that if she doesn't have sex with you she might lose you. She might start to wonder if you still find her attractive and will have sex with you to assure herself that she is. Either way dude, you're having sex.

I agree that adopting a behaviour just to curry favour of any sort is probably not the right way to go about anything, romantic, sexual, professional, or otherwise. The unspoken context here, however, is that the OP hasn't been romantic. (Yes, the post DOES convey that probability.) On a slight tangent, what I'd like to know is why not? Romance is FUN. I'm not saying it's more fun than sex, but variety is stimulating.

It's common in the PUA community to talk about how the process of socializing should be fun. You should teach yourself to enjoy being in public, talking with strangers, introducing people to one another, etc. The process of a romantic relationship should, likewise, be enjoyable to you. If you don't already, learn to enjoy spooning on the couch, cooking together, and walks to the ice cream parlour.

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