I've been seeing a girl for 3months. Last night she went to dinner with her old neighbors. I know nothing about them at this point. Anyway I get a text super early this morning...which i thought was weird because she usually texts me about a hour later. Just goodmorning shit. Anyway the day passes and I get an text askn about my day..then I get one that says;" Hey! How are you! I made it home with fifteen minutes to get ready. Did you make it? I'm hanging really bad today.... " She immediately texts me back that it was for her cousin..not me. I'm thinking this is fucked up. That's something happen with the "neighbor" and she stayed there and whatever. My question is I want to know what happened but dont want to be AFC. What do I do? My gut tells me something is up.

Hello. First of all:

She is not your girlfriend is she? Well, If she isnt, she theoretically can do what ever she likes, and so can you. Thats not the idea of course, and probably, if you know her for 3 months, this is what could be happening:

-She is seeing another guy (hope not)
-It really was a missunderstanding
-She is getting restless. She probably is trying to say "hey, i wanna be your gf, you are to slow"

My advice: Dont worry man, just do what ever you think is good for you, If you dont want any serious relationship, then you shouldnt worry about if she is cheating or not, but If you want a serious relationship with her, then you have to make the move, and fast.

CU

Hey Snoop,

let's just rewind a bit here. You have to get all of your ducks in a row before you move forward here.

You used the word 'cheat'. What could she be cheating ? Have you made a vow of monogamy ? or do you just have an expectation of monogamy ? If you do have an expectation of monogamy then does she know this ? If she does know this then has she agreed to it ?

If the answers to all the above are yes, then:

1) You clearly do not trust her, so why agree to mutual monogamy with her.

2) Are you prepared to reciprocate her monogamy ?

You've known this girl 3 months, if she's feeling itchy then something's up. Why don't you get out, have some fun with some other girls, then reassess the situation.

Check the posting on monogamy on my website for more info.

cheers,

Phil.

Sounds like she realized she made a mistake.

Same thing happened to me. Here's what happened. I first get this feeling over 3 weeks that shes acting "different." Finally i barely get a word out of her over sat. night Sunday morning im bombarded by text messages and facebook messages of, "what you doing" "im coming over." Funny thing was I just woke up checked my facebook and no shit not more than 2 mins she was at my house telling me she cheated on me. That was last June and im still fucked in the head. haha Freeze her out for 2 days and she will either come clean or you will have to beat it out of her.