My gf of 8 months has been acting really distant for the past couple of months. She used to text, email, several times a day with "sweet nothings" and I noticed about two months ago that started to be less and less.

She had told me things were not going well at work and they had cut the budget for her dept. Last night she told me she had a job interview in another city and that she had been talking to the new company for a few days. She was almost sure she will get the job.

It's a high paying job. She would not be able to find anything comparible here (although the cost of living will be much higher)

She hit me with the news out of the blue and i unfortunately was very emotional. She wasn't. At all. And this is a girl who normally crys at anything.

So, my theory is she has probably been looking for a couple of months and she has had time to prepare herself emotionally because she knew what was inevitably going to happen.

There are a lot of good reasons for her to take the job and move. Of course I don't want her to. She likes living here (so she says) I have a business and have even told her that I could give her a job but she has never shown any interest in what I do. She's very independent.

So, what do I do at this point? Do I try to get her to stay? Do I just go ahead and break up with her now and avoid the emotional turmoil that is sure to come?

She tells me that she loves me but i don't understand how you can leave someone you love just like that.

Trooper

Man, the best way to understand her is rapport. You have to put yourself in her situation and try to think what would YOU do. If what what you WOULD do is different of what she wants to do, then break up. Because from my point of view she DO loves you... love doesent dissapear from one day to another. But probably you need a more affective and emotional girl.

Just because there is love, doesn't mean there are boundaries. If someone has ambitions and goals that they place above their love, then guess what is going to come first? Their ambitions and goals.

Tell her you understand the situation she is in, and explain to her that you support her either way. If she does move, and is still interested, then invite her to try a long distance relationship out.

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Dude,
I know exactly where you're at! My girlfriend has just moved away for a really good job. The hours are heavy etc etc. I know that in her head regardless of feelings she is thinking that a relationship wont be functional.
All i have said to her is that you can't make pre judgements about anything like that and just to go with the flow! Let everything run it's course - whatever that may be!