Hey guys. So, I mentioned that I'm married but in an open marriage. My wife periodically snoops. I am open and honest with her, tell her everything I'm doing, anyone I'm talking to, tell her about any lady I'm pursuing...I'm totally open with her.

Yet, she still snoops. She read my email last night, I knew it, I gave her an easy opportunity to confess, she did not, I then gently confronted her with it, she confessed and apologized. I don't get her. If she had asked to read it, I'd have said "knock yourself out". If she read it while I was gone and just told me she read it, I'd have said "OK, thanks for telling me". She was going to hide it from me that she read an email or two, even after I gave her a perfect opportunity to just say so.

This really bothers me. An open marriage requires complete trust between spouses, and I feel like she is distrusting me.

So, guys...how do you handle childish snoopers that you've had as GF's or spouses?

Gruuve

I'm sure it'll definitely blow up in my face. But I'm not too worried if it does...there's not too much she can say, she's already had her play time with a 22 yr old boy-toy. Now it's my turn.

We're having some relationship issues at the moment which is probably why she decided to snoop (again). My wife has to be a drama queen...every little thing is such a big deal.

Gruuve

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Divorced dude having a good life.

Hey Man, I feel you.

Honestly there's nothing you can do to stop her from snooping that won't anger her (I know that from experience). You're already doing all the right things- being open, honest, giving her the opportunity etc.

I overcame my snooping girl by hiding my private life better. This involves doing my pivate emails from my own laptop while at work before I leave to go home. It's not ideal by anyones standards, but it solved the snooping problem.

God speed.

-1Mystique

To be completely honest, I do not know of any open marriage that has worked. She may have "had her time," and you may have had yours...but I would recommend that if things don't fall back on the path of comfortably enjoying each other while enjoying others....then it may just be time to escalate and take things to another level with your wife. Have you thought about cutting out the others?

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