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Lol. So a guy who would like to his gf more must want to do so because he has no life/hobbies? Cant be he just wants something closer to an actual relationship? People advise against LDR's, this sounds awfully close to one, whats the point if youre seeing someone the same amt of time youd see them if they lived further away? Maybe im crazy, but if Im seeing someone every other week and barely talking to them...thats a fwb and I make it that type of relationship.
Following N2's advice could definitely get him dumped. But thats more cause the chick just doesnt really care to talk to him and this is an excuse. If she cares abt the relationship, hearing her bfs concern is gonna lead to better communication. He could do nothing, and guess what will continue, she'll continue to meet every 2 weeks or every week, never really contact him and then just break up anyway when she realizes, I dont really want to talk to him. OP prob has some insecurities, but Im not gonna advise the guy to continue having the relationship he wants more from. And wanting to talk to someone you call your gf is normal. If the chick bails at that notion, she wasnt really into you. Simple truth, the chicks who give a fuck about you arent trying to dump you when you have a well reasoned out concern or need The chicks who do dump you for it, dont care.
And OP, she texted you and sent you a snap the next day. If you want a relationship where you talk more, maybe over the phone, LEAD it there...pick up the phone when you want to talk to her.
Definitely. So to the guys out there afraid to speak their need earlier on, wouldn't you want to find out before you invest all this energy into a relationship that a girl is going to be responsive to you, rather than act as though you're too much'?
This isn't the same as telling her everything, as I know Arch is thirsty to jump upon a statement like this.
Imagine being in a car (your relationship) and having one person drive, the other navigate. Only the person driving is going their own way, and the navigator is spouting off directions to some other route. How the hell do you get from point A to B?
There's no communication, no transparency. Soon you have something adversarial. You create an enemy image of your passenger, and they in-turn create one of you. How the hell do you build something in such a circumstance? This is how the majority of relationships are. People pinning, vying, and jockeying for the upper hand. It's all bullshit, a farce. You've been lied to by society, PUAs, media social conditioning in general. Its all predicated on a rewards/punishment based system we use to get others to do as we wish them to. "The relationship would be perfect if only my girlfriend did this"...
Not communicating your needs is like being in that car with no clear destination/common objective. And ya, speak your truth early or have nobody to blame but yourself for getting into a car that's already destined for nowhere, if anything but being abandoned on the side of a dusty road somewhere.
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