While I haven't been learning long, I find with all NLP techniques, the way they want you to speak to the woman is a way that no-one even speaks in, unless they're a newsreader or salesman of some sort. The language they use is very formal and I think only seems realistic and natural on older/mature women, in formal circumstances and if you are middle aged man yourself. E.g you can't use it on some young girls who are hanging out in the university cafe, nightclub, etc. Thats just my own take on it though, would be glad to hear what you guys think.

Great post, allow me to make a comment and that is you could be speaking to the wrong girls? what i mean is however formal it may seem and however many videos you watch the girls have a degree of smartness and if you try it on young girls who well lets face in UK are pretty dumb then yeah they would ponder too much but you'll find kino, cocky-funny work just fine

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Go to Youtube and watch Vince Kelvin, he does a bunch of street pick-ups using NLP suggestions laced in his conversations. "So tell me, that's a very nice necklace you have... where'd you get it?" She answers. "So did you go out to buy it, or was it one of those moments where you were just out not expecting to find anything and then you saw it, wanted it, and were excited--WITH ME--It's always about the unexpected," things like that.

I've also used, "So what's your favorite song... I always believe a person's choice in music says a lot about them." Answer. "Really, now, do you like go home and pop it in and relax, or is that your dance song." Answer. "Oh, I can see that. Just heard it one night, started dancing, getting excited and just ready to do something."

I either get them relaxing or amped up by this point, then I start moving into more framing and embedded commands, negative suggestions, works fine for me.