So i told this girl I wanted to have anel sex with her and told her through text messages and she was stunned. She was like wtf and said why would i say that. I told her thats how i felt when I thinked about her. She was like why would you say that and its akward talking to me now. I told her what do you think. What should i do? Should i just not talk to her anymore? I havent seen her in 4 months and then decided to tell her. Did I mess up? She was like dont tell a girl that and other stuff. Any advice?

I'd chalk this one down to a lesson learned. If you've not seen her in a while, suddenly dropping an intense thing like anal might upset the mood.

If you want to do that with her, you're going to have to build up LOTS of trust with her. Don't forget that anal will probably hurt her if it's her first time.

My advice would be to be in a relationship, of kinds (fuck buddy or girlfriend), and get her a little drunk. This will hurt her less. But not too drunk. Just a little tipsey so that she feels confident and adventurous, but still can think straight. That way you can talk about totally sharing yourselves and exploring new ideas.

Make it her fantasy and it'll happen more regularly.

Tips for anal:

1. Use lube. Saliva is better than nothing I guess.
2. Start in the spooning position. Hurts her less if it's her first time. If the first time is good, there should be a second time. If the first time hurts, there's no seconds!
3. Don't let her go on top! This will put you too deep for her first time. Work up to it.
4. Hope she's gone to the toilet earlier. I've never had it where I pull out and she craps on the floor, but I've hear horror stories that I'm not keen on experiencing!
5. Play with her clit and neck in a certain way when you're in her. She'll enjoy the feeling and will link it to anal. That way she enjoys losing her brown-wings, but better still, when you play with her clit and neck, she's reminded of anal and wants it.