What you are asking is ...
"how exactly do I smack her with my magic wand so that her panties fall off and she bends over"
and the answer is ...
ummm ... it doesnt work that way ..
If you're using NLP correctly .. then her perception of you will be that of the man who .... just has it going on ! Something unexplainable that gives her the FEELING that she gets when she hears her favorite song or see's her favorite moviestar or whatever ... it is not something that you pull out of your hat when nothing else is working and bang her in the head with.
That said ... I think you can start by working on the basics which you can find in books or like Becks909 suggested get some of Ross Jefferies material ... you have to weed through the constant marketing but the information is there. (I have the SS home study course and still consider it highly valuable)
Hope that helps ..
Have Fun
MK