Hi there

I think I'm quite familiar with NLP now, eventhough I had to learn by myself.
(NB : If you have recommended lectures or audio books I'm interested I almost finished Unlimited Power by Thony Robbins.)


The difficulty I have is about mirroring.

This is what I understood :
- Body posture (legs or arms crossed, feet pointing towards me or elsewhere, straight or round back...)
- Voice (tonality, speed, words)
- Eyes (look in the eyes or not)
- Orientation (object, information, etc.)


So my questions are :
1 - Is this list right ?

2 - How to mirror someone's breath ? I can't really see how it's done...

I've read that you need good rapport to run patterns, so am also wondering how to build solid rapport and exactly how to mirror someone successfully.

I just kind of assume I'll have rapport. I like to use put ons and then go into direct sincere to set a frame then I just roll from there...honestly, I don't even think about rapport...either I do or I don't and if I don't then I just try someone else....as RJ would say, "exit stage left!"

I want to know the same.. how exactly do you mirror someone's breath? Stare at their chest attentively? It's pretty hard.

If you're mirroring someone's breath you're focusing on the wrong thing. It is NOT important to mirror at all actually. That was recommended (not even taught, just recommended) WAY back in the old model of Speed Seduction, but now, Ross doesn't really even mention it. Also, anchoring isn't emphasized as much as it used to be. Now, your voice tonality can be used an anchor which makes it easy because you should use a different tonality anyways when you are doing hypnotic patterning. So, in effect, you are killing two birds with one stone; you're anchoring and you're putting her in state with JUST your tonality.

The newest model of Speed Seduction focuses on getting her talking more by using seduction questions (which also get you rapport), playing fun games or quizzes, using descriptions (traditional canned patterns), and fractionating.

As far as mirroring, if you want to learn about that get Tom and Kim's NLP videos because they can tell you cool concepts about mirroring such as when someone does a gesture you can delay the amount of time before you mirror them and you don't have to do their gesture with as much intensity as they do. One really important, powerful technique is mirroring back their trance words and what they do RIGHT BEFORE they access a deeper level of their mind. For example, if you ask a girl a seduction question and she goes inside to access the answer, right before she answers, she might do a gesture (whether it be a facial expression, her face flushes, she looks up, she touches her chest, whatever!), when she does do that, MIRROR IT BACK! That type of mirroring is emphasized moreso than mirroring just for the purpose of rapport.