Greetings, fellow NLP-mates.

Let's get started. I have a problem that might ruin my current relationship (5.2 months into it). It's simple. She's being the AFC; needy and clingy; and she's driving me away. When I ignore one request to see her, she tries to freeze me out (ending up in a "Sorry, I'm so stupid.. I love you.. but sometimes I do stuff like that").

So, I am in 100% control of this relationship.

The problem is, as said, that she's too much into me. Too needy. She tells me how much she loves me, telling me that she've never felt this way before etc. She asks me if it's possible for two souls to be together a whole life w/o breaking up.

And, as said, it drives me away. It makes me feel un-attraction for her. But, I still love her. I'm afraid that her behavior might destroy the relationship if it continues.

Here's my question: is there any pattern, sequence or advice from the world of (mainly) NLP and (secondly) PUA? I've heard about OMS and shit like that, and I know about it (not used...). Is there any think like that, which could modify how much she feels that she needs to be physically present with me?

Any advice, NLP or not, is appreciated!

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Style: Who do you think lies more...
DeAngelo: What's up fool?
AFC: Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

I know what you're going through (that's a lie =P) , well, sorta.
I'm having much of the same problem.

So tonight;

I'm going to try guiding her through a bit of NLP, with association and dissociation; Got it from Bandler,
Here's the drill,

I'll just guess you know the difference between Association and dissociation, tho I probably will explain them, sorta, throughout this.

Lessening the feelings of Love,
Associate to emotions and memories of bad/negative experiences with the person
And Dissociate with memories of the more positive stuff...
You know ?

I'm planning on trying to ask her how she remembers some good times from our time together, and have her dissociate, like; asking her to see it as though she's a third person, thus lessening the emotional connection to the memory. you see?

and have her "just try something as an experiment", see how she looks at memories that are bad, to see if she re-experience these fully, as though she were there (association) and if not, lead her into "just try this for a sec".. the experience, and associate it. making the emotions of not liking me stronger in her memories.

I'm thinking of running her through several memories, changing them all, (constantly reassuring her that it's not anything weird psychological/hypnotic stuff (I know this is kinda cruel to do, the act of manipulating someones emotion and memory-process, but I think it may lessen the deep physical pain and sorrow she'll go through anyhow, since we're both moving to different places for studies))

I think I'll try just dissociating the good, making her neutral to me, at least at first... but We'll see...

I predict I may have to do the whole thing, but... yeah.
I don't really like doing this this way, but it's either that or allowing her unconscious to trouble us both for a long while with undo emotions and shit. =\

I just posted on this. Reference neediness in the Relationships section

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