| I want to comment on NLP here.
NLP is neurolinguistic programming.
This is usually paraphrased in this community as (I'll give the nod to Ross Jeffries, but even if I'm wrong, whatever, I don't give a shit) "embedded commands". Essentially, you're "weaving" commands into your words to "sugar coat" them and make them less "shock and awe" seeming. It's an attempt to add "comfort".
Personally, after experimenting, while I'm not going to claim that NLP does NOT work, it's still indirect and I've had plenty of good results by simply just giving women commands and being upfront about what I want. Not "long term" what do I want, but "short term" what do I want.
"Comere"
"Put your hand here" (grab her hand and put it where you want it)
"Turn around"
etc.
For many men, especially insecure ones and newbs/AFC's, this isn't comfortable, it takes practice, so I think NLP has a place, to an extent, in getting men comfortable with themselves. However, once you become comfortable with giving commands, it's way easier to just skip the indirect method of hiding the commands in shrouded language ("safe" from rejection) and just give the commands.
It's more honest and as long as you don't have any fear of rejection or an ego that is going to cry and act like a 3 yr old who didn't get his toy if she doesn't comply, then you just let rejection bounce off you and continue "leading" her.
You think "Bad Boys" are saying "Hi <random girl>. What is your favorite food? Oh. Avacado? Great. Well can you [i]imagine[/i] for a second what it would be like to eat that avacado? Now can you imagine that my penis is an avacado? Now will you imagine you are blowing me and enjoying it?
That's asking her for permission, it's too indirect and personally, it sounds like something a woman would say because she's scared to be direct about what her true intentions are.
If it's a chick you're already intimate with, Man up, start kissing her, Say, "Goddamn your lips feel good", back up and say, "Kiss me here" and if she's excited enough she'll likely do it. If she don't, don't act like a 1 year old that dropped his bottle on the floor and throw a temper tantrum and DON'T act all hurt and insulted.
You tried, she didn't bite {figuratively} you can try again some other time, but be a man and tell her what YOU WANT. Do you WANT her to suck your cock? Then tell her to and deal with whatever she says or does.
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