Forget Trance-Words, they are 90's concepts and they are based on old information. Today, we now know more about the human brain than we have ever known before. In the last three years, we've learned more about the human brain than we have in three thousand years. The one major thing we've learned is that metaphors are more powerful in a persons mind than anything else. This has been examined since the early 1900's, but only fully realized with the latest neuroscience just how powerful they are.

The word Jesus Christ, gives less of a spark in the brain, than the image of the cross (a metaphor), telling a person that they are weighed down, or blanketed with something, is more powerful, than telling them that they are "feeling overwhelmed."

Look for and listen to a person's metaphors, for that's how they begin to model the world. Once you hijack their metaphor, you have hijacked their model of the world, and you can take it anywhere you want to.

As an example, I was talking to this girl, and we talked about happiness, and she said, "When I'm happy, I'm floating about." "Yeah," I said, smiling, "That must be so wonderful to be off the ground, lifted above any worry." She smiled and nodded.

Now, I'd start utilizing language around feeling light, soaring, flying, being carried about, and linking these words to myself, allowing me to model her world of happiness.

You can do just about anything once you have that model understood, such as moving it into sexual terms, moving it into connection terms, and the such.

Good stuff. Isn't that also apart of mimicking if they're audio, kinesthetic, visual as well?

Yeah what NLP techniques are you using here? I'm just starting to study it and in my noobish mind that sounds like Anchoring, but instead of anchoring to a specific feeling you're anchoring to her own trigger word? SO Anchoring without having to set it up?

I'm probably wrong, but thanks for your help!

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Sarging is like a boxing match, you size your opponent up, throw in some jabs to open proceedings then explode with everything you've got.

Transformational Metaphors are part of Strategic Intervention. Instead of trance words, we're looking at a person's modeling words (deeper into NLP, when you read Partterns of Hypnotic Techbique of Milton Erickson, you learn some about personal metaphor), and then utilizing it. NLP trance words are much more basic and easy to listen for, because they're repetitive words.

A trance word is, "You know, like, I really like to do this, and like, it's just so amazing." The trance word being like. Or, "I feel like I can do a lot of things, it's really important for me to feel something is right."

What you're doing is taking it one step further. You're trying to figure out what is the emotion behind their trance word, what is their metaphor, what is their Model for that word.

Now, once you have their model, you can use anchoring, but, in this case, what you're really doing is just stepping into the way the woman you're talking to sees the world.

A clearer example than the one I gave would be asking her the question. I met this girl in a gym, asked her about her shoes (they were rainbow colored special edition marathon sneakers), she said, "I really LOVE to run, it's truly a passion of mine, I love it a lot, especially the marathon."
"Let me ask, I don't want to take up too much of your time and interrupt this workout, but, what is it about running that you LOVE?" (emphasizing her trance word). "When you're in the Flow (metaphor), it's that push of energy (metaphor), the world dissapears (metaphor) around you, and you're left with yourself and you're destination." This girl was really vividing with her language (you won't always be that lucky, sometimes you'll have to struggle or listen for a singular metaphor).

I now step into her world, "That's amazing... that really sounds powerful, you know, I sometimes feel that way with conversations, does that sound weird... Like you just get into a flow with someone (self-pointing), and you really feel that energy just connecting! With me, that's the closest I get to the world dissapearing... but wow, I mean, that is just such a beautiful way to experience running!" There's a bit of fractionation and confusion--you don't always have to be that complicated, in fact, you could've carried the conversation with the word flow, energy, or world dissapearing.

You want to start by placing one of her metaphors into something you do in life, this way you're creating an understanding of her world that she see's you in.

This is really interesting. Makes sense.

I have a friend who is naturally good with people (and women, obviously). He always seems to pick up a metaphor and run with it.

Might be another level of mirroring that people talk about. They say people who are hitting it off will start to mirror each other's body language, vocal tone, and so on. Those metaphors are another level to connect on.

You guys are just knocking it out of the park, with levels that I myself didn't consider and definitely should've. You're exactly right, it's sort of the ultimate rapport builder. You mirror, you anchor, and you utilize trance themes, all in one.

Metaphors are effective when they mirror the subject's experience. Here's a simple template for creating your own, on-the-fly metaphors.

1. Subjects Experience has these characteristics:

Main Character (Subject)
Supporting Character/s
Action
Outcome

2. Hypnotic Metaphor has these characteristics:

Main Character
Supporting Character/s
Action
Outcome
Bridge
New Outcome

With seduction, the Main Character is the girl you're trying to seduce.
The Supporting Character is you, perhaps she's with friends, which can also be Supporting Characters in you metaphor.
The Action could be "going out shopping", "lunch break from work", or "going for a drink with the girls", whatever.
The Outcome could be meeting you

When it comes to the hypnotic metaphor, you need to mirror her story, and then Bridge it with your metaphor. The bridge must be something decisive, an intervention of some sort.
Then, your New Outcome is you two hooking up, suggested through the metaphor.

This is just a template that might be useful for some of you to build metaphors around, based on Erickson's work. Practice free association exercises and practice building hypnotic metaphors out of any story or situation, even just for yourself. You'll get the hang of it easily with practice. Then you can add in some of the more advanced layers.