Hello I'm not sure if it's right place cuz it's seduction forum but I hope its ok.
So anyway need some recs for NLP books to change your personality.
Long, long time ago after bad relationship I noticed that being a "dick" helps you to be liked. I mean it helps not only with chicks but becoming popular guy too. So I switched from sweet, responsable guy and kinda bookworm to insensitive, never giving a fuck about anything "cool guy". And it's actually worked great I found lots of budies became really good with chicks and etc. BUT now negs became insults, minds way too dirty and I NEVER EVER wrong even when I know that I said completely crap I will come up with some even bigger nonsense to prove myself right.
So now I see myself as a very bad person although my mates loves me for that I actually hate myself and building long term healthy relationship with girl is almost impossible cuz I'm a DICK! To be honest even getting laid is hard because of constant insults coming from my mouth.

Blah I wrote lots of crap long story short I need good book or a model to change myself to atleast a bit sensitive, more active(cuz I srsly lazy) and put my big brains into better use.
Thanks in advance.

Had this exact same problem.

What made you attractive and sociable was the non-caring attitude, the aura of confidence and the fact that you became more challenging and stimulating. Just re-frame these traits to bring out the good in them while discarding the bad.

Replace arrogant and rude with playfully challenging and respectful. Et cetera.

It's all about taking the best from both worlds and finding the right mix.

You might like David DeAngelo's stuff.