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I believe in NLP & SS because there are too many people who have reported about using it and having it work. And they don't sound like liars. You can easily tell liars because the details don't ring true. It can't be a giant charade. There can't be all these people just pretending that it works.
They often say that the results are extreme when it works, but it doesn't always work on everyone. And no one has disproven SS or NLP. There hasn't been anyone I know of who is smart and made a total effort to master and use SS and then said that it doesn't work. If you don't want to use SS, then that's fine with me. I think it's cool that it's a rare skill. If a lot of people could use it, then that would make it less cool. If one person is enough to put you off on NLP, then I would say you weren't very motivated in the first place. You have to really want to learn it.
Who cares if there hasn't been scientific testing. It's been tested in the field. Scientific testing might be very expensive and I doubt anyone would be motivated to do it. A lot of scientists are really mean, nasty bastards, by the way. Their favorite thing to do is to tell everyone else how wrong they are about everything and to be extremely negative and critical. Fuck them.
I'm going to keep studying SS and will start using it in the field in the near future. I will let you guys know how it works out for me.
Amen to what you said about scientists, though if they were doing there job properly, ie applying the scientific method, then they would not have any bias either way.
There is a huge difference between what scientists actually do and the scientific method IMHO. The latter is an enormously powerful concept which gives us electricity, automobiles, the internet and put a man on the moon. It is probably the most important concept in human history. (Derren Brown is very big on the scientific method BTW.)
The former, as you point out, can be insufferably irritating.
While field experience is very important, you have to remember that purveyors of out-and-out bullshit, eg psychics, faith healers, will claim that their methods work for their customers also. Most of them have no problem producing testimonials from satisfied customers, and these are genuine.
The difficulty is in separating people who have been genuinely cured or assisted by something and those who got healthier and happened to be doing acupuncture or whatever at the time. There is also the placebo effect.
So, it does seem quite possible to me that you could have a school of seduction which was entirely ineffectual but nonetheless was commercially successful. There is a huge industry built around reiki, but it is total bollocks.
I tend to think there is something in the SS approach, but I'm not really how much of it is truth and how much is bullshit. In "The Game" Strauss mentions that he can't tell whether Jeffries is seducing a girl because of his NLP mastery, or simply because he is coming out with something more interesting than nice guy bullshit.
There is a problem in general working out how effective a given seduction method is, because, simply by virtue of approaching lots of girls PUA's tend to do significantly better than AFC's. They also tend to be more confident. When you add in common-sense stuff (be confident, be upbeat, touch her) stuff you are already talking about having a significant edge over the general population.
Additionally, if you get it on with a 9 using SS, you are definitely going to be a disciple of SS in the future. But the 9 may have just been really into you anyway. Or you might have effectively closed the deal at the point you approached her confidently.
To illustrate what I'm saying take a hypothetical example: I start my own "Cheese seduction" school. The basics of cheese seduction are simple. You walk up to a girl and start talking about cheese. I give overpriced seminars about how to get the girl hot talking about all the different varieties of cheese and how good they taste. After all, what kind of girl hasn't ever consumed a dairy product before? Evoking those happy memories of comfortable moments eating Philadelphia is the key to unlocking a girl's legs. $500 per hour please.
The thing is, to some extent this would actually work, at least provided you believe in it. If the acolytes of Cheese seduction really believe the method worked, then they will be projecting massive confidence, and they'd approach more girls as a result and make better approaches. They may also come across as weird, but many girls may dig a highly off-the-wall approach. They still aren't going to look as weird as Mystery even if they go around dressed as pieces of cheddar or edam.
What you would really need to determine whether SS works would be to do what a proper scientist would do and test it in the field and test it against a control group. Take ten guys, teach them SS, let them go make 100 approaches. Take ten other guys, give them generic dating advice, and get them to go make 100 approaches. If SS works, then it would give you better results with statistical significance.
I think SS would probably outperform. I do think there is something obviously seductive about tryint to get a girl into a relaxed and aroused mental state. However, I am not so sure as to what the extent of the improvement would be. It does seem to me quite likely that the more esoteric aspects of SS are just ineffectual or actually harmful.