I find that alot of times that when I'm talking to girls they just broke up with someone. And when I run something about love, for instance the cube or other psychic coldreads, then they think about the boyfriend they just broke up with.

I was thinking about creating a response to this.

Step 1: coldread or topic brings up memories of recent relationship. im not sure what happens in a woman when this comes up. I think that she feels the good feelings from the relationship but now there is a "void". Swinggcat talks about how voids create desire. Since the void is already there, then all you have to do is amplify it just a little. Not too much though, just a few lines to emphasize it. We aren't trying to make her feel pain. Its just to bring it to her conscious attention.

Step 2: Then mention say something like "BUT... i think that there is a soulmate for each everyone of else out there" so your transitioning from to hope.

Step 2: Link yourself to the pleasure and connection which she desires. perhaps, some sort of modified soulmate/connections pattern?

I don't know how this would workout though. It could accidentally link yourself to the ex-bf, whereas you would just be the guy to replace the bf, instead someone she views as someone to have legitimate value. However, I think that the importance of this is to link the concept of a soulmate to you. so you establish a different connection in a her mind than her ex-bf.

Any ideas?

btw please don't do this if your not legitimately serious in the girl. I'm sure girls like this have been through a lot.

You could create a clear distinction between the soulmate idea and her ex. So everytime you mention a soulmate, hope or anything positive, link it to you and face her directly, with direct eye contact and closed body language. When you mention breaking up and all the negative things that is associated with it, open up your body language so you're standing more 'beside her' viewing the world rather than in a closed conversation. That way you're not associated with it. You could also use anchors to achieve the same result.

When she is in that state of mind of thinking about her ex, you need to use pacing and leading to bring her to a more resourceful state to feel attraction for you - remember, change her mood not her mind. It really doesn't matter if she still loves her ex to death, if you concentrate on affecting her short-term mood. You can do this by matching her body language, voice tone and patterns initially and verbally acknowledging thoughts about her ex, then gradually lead her to a more desirable positive, uplifted and attracted mood.

Combine those two simple ideas with your current ones and you have a basic, but extremely robust method of transmuting any negative thoughts about the ex to extremely positve ones about you. You're just allowing the negative energy to dissipate and creating room for positive energy - an AFC would try to battle against and deny the negative energy, which is fundamentally why he would fail. Or, he might just try to be too sympathetic and not provide room for a positive outlook. Remember, empathy NOT sympathy.

Alright, so here is a turn on this topic, I'm the ex, and I want her back. I know I've created all sorts of nasty little anchors and I need to get rid of them. Read "the game" a few years and and re-read the opening chapter with a grimace being that it was true to my life over the last few weeks. Anyway, I know there is love, and fun but there is also a mess of negativity that I need to get through and turn away. Much of it centers around her kid and me and my inexperience around those little buggers, another issue was my over reacting to certain things that came up during the relationship. Need to re-pick up this girl, I love her. Problem, we really aren't in contact nor do we see each other regularly. Gone through a little "get your ex back" stuff with breaking off contact, fitness, changing my look a little... Need more...

I just taugh I will contribute to this one since it happen often when going deeper into girl life.

First every discusion should be around something positive
second, Don't ask if she have a boyfriend
third the attention is on you and must stay positive.

Otherwise you are becoming a best friend dutchbach

When a girl start complaining
I listen and don't listen at the same time. (let her know you respect her but you are not here to hear about a sad girl story. You are here to bring joy in her life. Or to have fun with other people. )

I always come up with :
"Yeah...I understand but this is the past... The futur is more interesting."

Hope that help
See ya