I feel approach anxiety is the number one thing that man is faced with on a daily basis.

As a skydiver and base jumper myself in my free time (shocking), I actually do get approach butterflies. I feel these never go away, but I've embraced them and when I get that feeling, I know it's ON. So...I wanted to do something fucking insane. Something I've actually experimented with before in the realm of "go out looking to get rejected." I'm doing this for all the Approach Anxiety people who think too much of what others think. Obviously social circles are different and can play out in different ways or logics, but this is something I am excluding. All approaches will be random stranger approaches.

I am going to be recording all of these rejection experiences. I have decided that while this is definitely not necessarily smart, it is something that will help people. I will be doing approaches in the day, but I will be doing them terribly. I obviously will not do crass stuff that is a dead giveaway of a bad approach. Instead, I'm going to focus on the steps we've all come to share...doing the steps wrong. From openers, to transitions, to conversational skills, to bad negging, to horrible banter, you name it I'm doing it.

I'll get whatever I can on video (need a camera guy), but for everything else I will have a mic on me with a record of the conversation.

its not approach anxiety, its approach excitement

Several awesome rejections.

"The Look at me, I'm kinoing Hot Babe 9 rejection Gone So Right?!"

I went in and it went like this

Excuse me...can you come here. Sorry to bother you but I just wanted to say you are so fucking cute!

Her: *laughs*

No really I saw you from over there in your shades and was like wow...that girl knows what shes doing.

Her: oh these? these are just common shades

Me: really? But there's nothing common when you wear it

Her: *touches me and laughs*

Me: *touches her shoulder while looking at it*

Me: I just touched you! Yay.

Her: um..haha? yea....

Me: so you seem very artistic where are you from?

Her: Oh I'm from Santa Monica but I'm just here studying with a group of friends..going to meet thme

Me: *looks at her for an akward 2 seconds...walks around without saying anything...hand over waistline*

Her: Um...

Me: So where we going *smile*?

Her: haha...ummm i dont know. u can come if you want. it'll be boring

[Comment: Wow...so she was a HB8-9...definitely into me...I mean I was fucking up kino MAJORLY bad...and the whole time I was thinking...wow seriously? How can I get rejected here...]

Me: *grabs her ass* I don't think it'll be too boring

Her: Hahha! Woah....you're smooth

[Comment: WOW seriously....HB 9 telling me a guy failing at kino is smooth? But seriously folks the real lesson here is that: you can kino badly...you can be AFC as long as you have something very good in your conversation...it can still sexually escalate if played right..kino escalation is necessary..but even bad kino with decent looks and good convo can lead to a k-close]

Me: Am I ? What about you...are you that smooth..*feels her face*

Her: i dont knoww haha

Me: *kiss cheek*

[Comment: Obviously HB9..I didn't want to purposely get rejected. I mean come on..I had a GOOD thing going luckily! I k-closed her and said listen i'll let you run back to your friends, give me your # we'll go out this thursday]

Her: COOL! =D

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Bad Negging For The Nice Girls

Went up to a group (3 girls, 2 HB 9's 1 HB7).

Excuse me ladies, was wondering if you knew the BEST item on the menu here...

HB9: Um..the best item...I dont know...haha
HB7: yea...like it depends what you want to eat...

Me: Oh come on, I know you girls definitely know where the good stuff is on this menu. I won't tell I promise. I'm a good guy.

HB7: Haha...ummm try the salad...?

Me: Salad....what! Well I'm glad you noticed at least....*wink*

HB7: Hhaah, is that a motorcycle jacket?

Me: Oh yea...of course. I always love riding my motorcycle....you know feeling the breeze but I'm not reckless. I want to keep meeting amazing people like you girls.

HB9: Um...do YOU actually ride a bike or are you just trying to look cool?

Me: Oh I'm sorry ladies..I didn't know we had the prime minister of fashion sitting here with her pink jacket and white shirt *smile*.

HB7/HB9 #2 start laughing.

---REJECTION IMMINENT---

What are you going to do next fashion girl? Tell your friend over here (HB7) what an ugly hello kitty shirt that is? Smile

[Comment: I negged a girl that clearly had high energy for me...something you don't USUALLY do... but at the same time...I negged it in a way where I still ....teased the HB9]

HB9: OKAY OKAY! sit down lol. quit standing up. ur making me like ...

Me: Hot and bothered?

HB9: *laughs* NO.

Me grabs her hand : that means yes....Don't lie...your friends don't mind. They approve of me. And I can see it in your eyes..you really like this.

Her: laughing.

Me: But no I don't ride a motorcycle.

All the girls : Yeaa we figured.

Me: About time. I can't believe you're all so stupid that you fell for it haha! *Smirk*

All of them laugh...

[Comment: SERIOUSLY...WHY AM I NOT GETTING BUSTED OUT HERE...THE HELL DO I HAVE TO DO ...]

Me: Nah..I was just telling my friend when I saw you 3, watch how these dumb girls are ganna buy this *smirk*

HB7: Um...dude....seriously?

HB9 that liked me: Yea....we're not dumb...we did figure it out eventually.

Me: Sure you did sweetheart...next you're going to tell me you knew 2+2 is 5. *laughs*

HB9#2: Wow..you're an asshole.

Me: Then I'm just your type!

HB9 #1 gets up, HB 9 # 2 gets up HB 7 rolls her eyes and gets up


REJECTED

[comment: Why more guys don't try to get rejected, I don't know. But it's definitely APPROACH EXCITEMENT.]

WINNING!

Dude thats some amazing stuff, I think Im gonna follow suite.

hahah, YES, i told you, approach excitement never approach anxiety. Winner

HAHA ur beast guy

SARCASM VS BANTER

HB 9 *texting vigorously on her cell*

Me: Hey, slow down. You can break your cute fingers like that *kino fingers*.

Her: *laugh* whatttttt...*red*

Me: you heard me....look at how cute you are. you can injure yourself.

Her: haha...wow. nice

Me: But of course if you did, you might look better [sarcasm] Irony used to mock/convey contempt. (You may break your cute fingers, but ironically it could fix your hideous face)...ouch...even said in the right tone this is bad.

HB9: Um....

Me: You're really funny though, I mean it. Kind of like the donkey from shrek...(once again Irony used to convey contempt of her ugliness...)

A lot of people might consider this "negging" but negging is VERY light-hearted and very one-sentence. It is not an underhanded comment and is NOT sarcastic (slightly if only)..

Her: Wow...dude just fuck off alright? wtf is your problem.

Me: What's YOUR problem. I'm just trying to have some fucking fun. You don't have to be such a donkey bitch about it [sarcasm relating to previous statement, sarcasm turning into blatant insults - weakness]

REJECTED

Tips for our Approach anxiety people: You only live once. You never get this life back. Take what I said by the fucking balls, grab your nuts and squeeze them to make sure you know they are yours and indicate you are of the male species. Just DO IT.

wow thanks for the share... thats pretty daring stuff... I haven't grabbed a girls ass with kino escalation like that on a daygame meeting...i think...

I also really liked how you kept the whole group in check... but in the end it was just too much ahhahahah... good stuff though

I'm Horny

*group of 2 girls and 3 guys*

I go up to 1 girl with a white french-like hat.

I say this with a dead serious face.

Hi..um... *with 5 people, I made the 6th. This can split into a 4 and 2 groups situation/isolation.*

I saw you from over there and your hat is making me real horny.

I look at her and then I look at a girl who overhears it....

No response. Dead quiet.


REJECTED

Warning: Do not sexually harass women like this. It can very well lead to trouble in certain situations. I just did it in such a nonthreatening way while slightly huddling my posture, they wouldn't say much to me. I already had weakness.

Neg gone so wrong HB 8

Me: Hey..what'd you do for spring break?

Her: Nothing....

Me: Really...nothing....are you that lonely ?

Her: haha ...ummm no i mean i hung out with some girls etc.

Me: Oh okay. that's cool. Woah..

Her: what

Me: Nothing...just was wondering if you always wear that much makeup..

Her: Uh...

Me: Anyways....so I was driving on the street...

Her: *kind of feels her face* Wait...

Me: So there was this car...

Her: Hey! what do you mean about my makeup

Me: and so this car just totally comes infront of me...

Her: Stop! what did u mean...u dont like it?

Me: and then this car...shhh listen to my story. You're a bad listener aren't you?

Her: no...i mean ur kind of saying like i didnt wear my make...

Me: so the car is just...

Her: ugh...*leaves*

I am always getting rejected. It makes you stronger each time and now I don't care about getting rejected.
I've been in a club and done 50 aproaches in one night and was rejected by all. This doesn't knock my game off it just makes it stronger.

This is probably my favourite thing anyone's ever said to a girl ever....

CaptainJackAss WTF are you doing? If you were an MMA fighter you wouldn't get knocked out to get rid of your fear of being knocked out. You are supposed to be afraid of rejection! Because...you don't want to get rejected! Approach Anxiety is your subconscious telling your ass to get on point! Fear is your friend.

You miss the point. Physical injury is a real injury to be avoided. Emotional injury is bull shit and means nothing. This has to be the attitude of the PUA. You have to get to the point that it doesn't hurt and you don't care so you're not needy because women hate desperation and neediness.

Going out and intentionally getting rejected is essentially the same as trying something new. You have to be fearless to try anything new because let's face it, there's always the possibility that it may fail. You have to be even more so to go out and get publicly humiliated intentionally.

I personally like to do it the old fashioned way. I get rejected on accident while trying new things. That's the only way to learn what really works in my opinion. I can read book after book and watch video after video, but I don't know for myself until I try it.

But after awhile it does the same thing. It numbs you to emotional pain, and eventually you realize a) the pain is all in your head and it doesn't really exist, and/or b) who gives a fuck what she/they think(s)?! I like me. Fuck her/them.

Props to CaptainJackHarkness for having the balls to do this! You always have some good advice man! This shows you have some balls and some game too. Can't wait to see some videos. I'll be showing them all to my friends that I'm sarging with. This shit is going to be epic!

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~The Munky~

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