So, here is it. After a couple of months of browsing this site to broaden my fledgling PUA knowledge, I have decided to start a journal. It was recommended to me that I should do this at day one but I just haven’t found the time.

First obvious question is why am I here? Its not a short answer so maybe grab a cup of tea or coffee and ensure you’re seated comfortably before reading on……

As recently as the start of 2011 of this year I was a man in a very happy long term (5 year) relationship. Without boring you with all the details, it all ended badly and wasn’t a decision made my me, I got ditched! Add into the fact I had moved to another country where the girl wanted to live to be with her and settle down just a few short months before, it hit me for six.

After that, I did what any man does. Go out. Get drunk. Find new women for uncomplicated fun. I’ve never liked the phrase ‘you have to get under someone to get over someone’ in the past but unfortunately, it applied here and gladly, I’ve really not been moping around or worried about my failed relationship as I’ve been having a good time.

I met a lot of women in that time and did well for myself and was recalling some ‘glory stories’ to my sisters boyfriend when he suggested I read a book called the game. I think he recommended it initially as he thought the stories were amusing rather than to give me advice, but after reading the game I felt like my eyes had been opened to a whole new world.

I mean I’m a decent looking guy (certainly not arrogant enough to go over the top on that and can’t judge my own looks but have always done ok with women) and I can talk to women……but the issue for me has always been opening. Once I’ve opened I have no issues whatsoever and a lot of success.

But I rarely open. When I have in the past I am pretty drunk (still do well when opening drunk usually but am still nervous even when opening drunk!).

I am genuinely unsure of an exact ‘score’ in my life to date but it’s in the fifties. Only reason I don’t know for sure is that there’s been a lot and the score has never been that important to me; I just mention it so you know what my definition of doing well with women before was.

So how have I got to that number without opening much? A lot of luck really. I seem to just happen to get talking to women. Or they approach me. Which is great.

But, reading the game got me thinking that if I am doing this well without opening, if I could get good at opening then I would be doing even better, like taking it to whole new levels.

I guess in a way, rather than being the reason ‘why’ I got here, the above is actually ‘how’ I got here.

The reason why I am here now is simple. I’m out of a long term relationship and want to enjoy being single for at least 12 months, before even contemplating a relationship. In that time I want to have a lot of fun with stacks of good looking women of my choosing (rather than them falling into my lap - for want of a better expression).

Why not, I’m young, have a good job and want to play hard for the next while….

So, what have I done so far? Well, not a lot to be honest. I love the idea of peacocking (I see it as a lazy opener and a nice easy starting point) so I am very conscious of this when shopping now. I bought one bright t-shirt with the slogan comical slogan on it which always prompts responses so far. Happy to receive any suggestions for other garments they’re successful with if they have a tried and trusted way!

Other than that, I’ve been going out a lot, ensuring my appearance is always improved and making sure whilst I have a few drinks, I am not getting blind drunk. I know I need to be in control.

I’ve been out with a couple of other PUAs and all have their own personal style. I need to find the right level of opener for me really, something I’m confident about and feel is believable. Some openers I’ve heard used are great but I am not sure I could use them without feeling it’s totally implausible and doesn’t fit with me. I mean, in my mind, if the opener is far out there you need to be far out there all the time with that girl so it fits into your personality naturally…..I guess I just need to find that elusive ‘natural’ style of opening.

Other than that, it’s just going to be practice, practice, practice. I look forward to sharing my journey with all of you guys and hope that you enjoy.

All feedback, advice and assistance is appreciated on any topic at all. Feel free to private message me, I’ll get back to everyone. I’m looking forward to becoming part of this community!