Im SEGGesq

Well im in North Jersey 25 read the book the game after a colleague recommended it to me and his success and i saw the craze on VH1 haha. Im not really looking to become an expert pick up artist because its not me but i want to incorporate a lot to become more successful. So basically I have not been "studying" besides reading the book a year ago. My hobbies are football trying to work out and music is a big one as I am a drummer in a band (who basically were just full time studio) I don't know what kind of pickup methods id like to use honestly

Here is my backstory and main situation please offer some advice on this (if this does not work I am totally giving up on love and just want to actually be like the PUA guys and just close dimes every week for a long time)

I fell in love with this girl I met in school but by the time I did it was sort of too late as I had moved away. We had lots of long conversations etc and were good friends the year I knew her really. Flash forward to today I was gone 2 years and now back home although when I was prepared to ask her out after sending her some flowers and trying to make a date I find out she is now dating someone who she claims won't last long but it seems like its working. She also now lives about an hour away yet her boyfriend is a long distance relationship (2-30 hours away) Since she only sees him weekends (and I guess sleeps with him when she stays over) I feel like this is gonna drag out for way too long and I will be shut out. This is also her first boyfriend. So what am I to do PUA community. Weve stopped talking ever since she told me (just me sending texts trying to call and her just politely responding but no conversations) She also started a new job where she works long hours during the week. Have I missed my chance? What do I do?? Im planning on just telling her how I feel just so she knows because the same thing kind of happened to me before and this is getting ridiculous.

Help me out please! Look forward to contributing to this community

Welcome! I hope you find the answers you need here

any advice on this? i am just about to tell her everything i have got serious oneitis going on post in the gen questions?

dude all of us have been in that situation ..... love always catches you off guard ..... if she's in a long distance relationship .... then either she must really like this guy or it was a mistake ...... from what you said it seems she aint happy but women can change like the weather ..... dont just assume that its over just because she said it wont last long ........ if she really wanted to end it , she would have ....just leave her to it .... trust me a women knows when men are into her .... if she rather be with someone who's like 30 hours away and your only 1 hour away ...... i think that tells you of your chances ..... bruv the feeling aint mutual .... dont get caught in the friend zone .... or she'll try using you to rebound ...

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i dunno if im in the friend zone i guess? We started as friends. I was the one who moved over a thousand miles away and was gone for 2 yrs and then when i was away i realized i was into her. She just met this kid start of the summer and hes goin to school in Philly she lives in NY so yeah i dunno. I know she can end it when she wants but im nto sure if she knows how into her I am and i kind of want to let her know that so she can choose if not soon then hopefully before the new year?

i think i know what your thinking ...... you probably think that if she knew how you felt ...... she might leave this other dude ..... personally i dont think even if you told her how you felt , it wont make any difference ..... if you do tell her and she turns around and says lets just be friends ..... believe me bruv heart break is a MUTHA FUKA it will fuck up your head ..... and even worse it could ruin your friendship ..... plus once she knows how you feel .... she might even take advantage of that fact ...... and u'll end up being her safety net ..... by that i mean she'll be like no matter what happens , if i cant find any1 else i still hav him on the side .... i always say better safe then sorry

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Yeah i cannot tell her just yet i need to better myself first get in my best shape etc it REALLY sucked to hear her say s this is the first weekend she wont see him all summer although I hope it is the start of her not seeing him many weekends at all

He's goin to school in Delaware so I dont know how long this could last althogh she has a different tune said it was goin good and she never thought she could be with just one guy.

So tellin her needs to wait at least a little while hopefully they grow apart while hes at schooland cant find the time to see each other?

Dude your evil ...... hoping the other guy messes up .... lol you know the saying " all's fair in love and war "

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