Nobody in the community who understands it properly is into using girls ...except maybe NLP people

For all the techniques in the world, it is still the woman's choice to enter any kind of relationship, some men are just better at attracting them than others. In other words, the woman you notice will be having sex with someone tonight and it might as well be you. Once you interact more with the people here, you'll realise that the "art" is really about doing what women wish you did anyway and that is nothing to feel bad about.
Hope that this is in some way encouraging.