hey, my name is Med.

any-hoo i got into this world from Style's book The Game, then i found out about Mystery, read his book (Mystery's Method) and watched all the episodes of his show (The Pickup Artist) now I'm onto Style's companion books to the Game (the Stylelife books)

so as of my 18th birthday i was an AFC, after completing these books and starting to make some changes in my life I've become a rAFC.

now about my relationships! i was never that confident, and always acted kinda weird around women, but I managed a few relationships (probably just because of my looks) almost every relationship had NO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION! almost completely sexual. except for this one

anyway, i was really digging this girl, but being the AFC i was i think i ruined any attraction she had for me by not being "strong" enough. she dumped me after 3 weeks

i was crushed

that was the first relationship i ever had an emotional connection in, and i lost it.

it took me about 2 months to get over it (sad... huh?)

we stoped talking but she always crossed my mind, (she moved onto other guys obviously)

in april my sister introduced me to the PUA community via The Game, and it's helped me change my life. i started walking with good posture, projected my voice, smiled at every one, flirted with hired guns. I FELT LIKE THE SHIT! Hell, I even went clubbing with a friend, i tried dancing with some girls (and i cant dance) and when you get close enough to place ur hand on their hip (which i did) i would mostly get my hand nocked away. BUT I DIDNT GIVE A SHIT!! it was a complete departure from what I may have felt if it was like a month ago

so i thought to myself "I've changed" maybe not a lot, but its starting, I'm on my way to recovery as an AFC.

like a week ago my ex comes up to me after i got out of the pool (we go to the same gym, and i'm a swimmer) we started talking for a sec, and i need to grab some shorts so i offer her to walk me to my car, she comes with me, i tell her to get in she complies, and i drive to another parking spot closer to the entrance. we started talking and we decided to hang out this weekend (it was last night actually)

then on facebook i see she broke up with her boyfriend (that void started to rumble) and i thought to myself, "i have a chance to get her back.." so yesterday i picked her up (i was all spiffy, looking good) and we started talking as i was driving to this sushi place. she pulls out an ipod and goes like "uhh, all this music is crap" so i asked her "whose ipod is it" she told me it was this guy named rick and i asked if he was a friend and she said no, then i go on to ask "then what, a boyfriend? a cousin?" i got crushed, it was a boyfriend

but i didnt show it at the time, no sign of emotion.

i found out se just hooked up with him the night before. and i thought to myself, okay, i can still make this happen, FUCK RICK!

she was texting as we were talking, i eventually took her phone away from her, i was playing push-pull games, i was cocky funny, i did some kino play, but i couldn't bring myself to do anything else. one of my greatest weaknesses is that i'm awful at picking up IOI's

we went to sushi, bounced to a clothing store, bounced to shaws, bounced to the mall, and bounced to my place... i think i remember Mystery saying that by getting a girl to see you in multiple places helps build rapport in a short period of time (i dont remember exactly)

as i'm driving her back home she shows me a hickey she left on her BF's neck, i flipped, i didnt say anything mean to her, hell i didnt say anything, i just went silent, didnt respond to a thing.

i dropped her off, and just left after saying good bye. then i did the most AFCish thing i could possibly do!!!! I texted her and asked "I need you to tell me that if you weren't with rick that I wouldn't stand a chance of winning you back, And i need it to be honest" WHAT THE FUCK WAS I THINKING!!!! the response "probably not..." then i said to her "Good enough thanx =)" i was crushed. i ended up talking to her over AIM later that night and confessed that (and partially made up stuff to save face) that i was with another girl (made up) and i wasnt feeling a connection (made up) but since she broke up with her ex i wanted to try to make a relationship i did have a connection to, to work (true)

i tell her good night and she gives me an awkward response "good story, interesting, night"

i was feeling like shit last night, now comes the morning and i got my head together! FUCK THAT SHIT!!! i need to make sure i never crack into my AFC traits, i need to become a PUA, i need to lose this one-itis (i think i'm good right now, but i dont know how i'll act when i actually see her in school tomorrow)

anyway, thats my story

To be honest mate it might surprise you to know that you've made a good start. Almost all of the greats started out by screwing things up. It's what drives them. Mystery didnt lose his virginity til he was 22 I think. Style was around the same. Even Hugh Hefner started up Playboy because he was blown out by a girl for acting like an AFC. It's memories like this that drive us.

I personally think that fear of the past drives us more than excitemnt of the future. Keep learning and staying focused and try your best not to fall in to the traps that girls lay. She was probably waiting for you to do something like that all night and you could have been so smooth about it.

You know I was in your same poisition when I was 19. I moved to Spain from London and made it my mission to sleep with 30 girls. By the time I got to the 18th girl I found out that she was really col and now she's my gf. We've been together for around 3 years and looking back she's so much better than the girl that made me suffer of one-itis.

mmhh....... thanx midaz.... im guessin im gonna be stuck in the "lets be friends boat" damn that sux! lol, onto another girl!