| Hi folks,
Me: 35, pretty good looking (in fact all my dates tell me I'm hot), 6' tall, slim athletic build, grey hair. I've always been timid and shy as hell. It's been my demise and I've barely ever hit on a ANYONE in my life. Starting to realize that my kind, generous, polite and courteous personality has always been a deal breaker. I've always gotten out of people's way, crossed arms, little eye contact. Always under the impression that you had to be super nice and polite and just stay out of people's way, as though I was bothering them somehow. Just a vibe I always thought I felt. Well, that never got me too far. In fact, I've always been under the impression that women don't want to be bothered or hit on. Never had too many friends or paid attention to how people worked lol. After having been in 2 serious relationships for 14 years from 20-34, I broke up with my ex-fiance and have been a free bird for 2 years.
Not having read too too much about game and all, I've still picked up a few important things over the last 2 years being single. I'm fortunate enough that online dating is common in my area (Oshawa/Toronto) so that's been fun, but I'd like to break out of my shell a bit more and just approach women in person. The process is much quicker. It's a yes/no within seconds. So this weekend I've just said "Hi how's it going" to few ladies and nothing came of it. They just keep walking. This was in a busy club district downtown Toronto. One girl turned, looked and had a big smile on her face but never slowed down. Just kept on walking.
I figure they're pretty shy, so I need to get closer, be more aggressive, or be in a more intimate 1-on-1 setting. Perfect opportunity last night at a pool hall. I'm playing by myself with people everywhere. Women are looking over at me. People are getting out of the way when I take a shot. I definitely have presence and they notice me. Big red plaid shirt and hair slicked back, I'm feeling good and comfortable drinking my beer, standing, looking around. I smile at the wait staff, and I'm courteous.
Two hot girls a few tables over, one looks taken, the other not so much. I call it a night and go to the bar to pay my tab. The two hot chicks walk right up beside me, giggling. Much younger than I, like 20. I'm 35. I turn and say "How are ya?" No response, they're chatting. I'm looking at the one right in the eye, she looks at me, and I Say again "How's it goin?" She just stares at me like an idiot. Neither respond, and they walk away.
What should I have done lol??? I'm thinking I could have said something stupid like "Your jeans are full of holes. Did you fall off your bike?" or "You're looking at me like I've got two heads on my shoulders." or "You guys having a good long weekend?" (it's a holiday weekend).
It's just one stupid split second in my life but I'm just wondering why they both just turned around and stared at me like that, and walked away! Maybe they weren't interested. Maybe they were.
-Alex
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