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So there is this girl (she's 21, and me 19).
I worked with her for a couple months never really said much to her. We had some mutual friends we didn't know about until we saw each other at a party.
I'm pretty bad at talking to people (male or female) that i don't know of their interests.
She showed back up at the old deli, I had worked with her for a few weeks again.
After she started back on the 2nd time working with her she made a low investment and invited to me to come to a party at her house since the other friends would likely be there. I told her I'd make it happen, but didn't think of asking her number smdh.
I got the address at 2 AM from a friend but at that point decided it'd be best to stay in.
A week or two passes then she was pestering me about when I finally turn 21 assuming go get drinks (bar scene and the lake are only real activities here in Indiana).
Where we were working at, music was allowed so i guessed around what i thought she listened to. apparently i got it pretty quickly she asked me to send her the playlist took the clear opportunity to finally get her number and eventually sending it to her.
A few days later however she got fired which put a dent in my plan to just ask her out in person.
Shes bad with texting back (just takes forever always get a response) and I have a bad tendency of matching response times which doesn't help when you're talking about hours even a day.
Anyway I asked if she wanted to go to the lake. So we went. We basically just sat there had some decent conversation, just way too much awkward silence. We had planned to drink and swim but neither ended up happening since she didn't bring her ID.
She hinted at me meeting her dogs, so i hinted at a concert coming to town, saying i had tickets but wouldn't go just to tease a little.
It was a "date" by [my] definition. 2 people with a plan to do something, it just didn't feel like one. No kiss or anything to close the date she just said to text her.
When/how should i go about contacting [her] for a follow up [date] or honestly if i even should?
I can live with walking away now although id like to try again with her. Let me know what you think, if i should try to get a hold of her today, let her sit on the mediocrity of the first date, or what? Without a doubt most complicated female I've dealt with.
There, now maybe you can get some advice. But I can say if you text like you write, it probably takes her 1/2 a day just to figure out WTF you are trying to say.
Men do not 'hint' at plans, they make solid commitments.
The 'date' was mediocre, because YOU didn't escalate it. YOU didn't try to kiss her, slide your hand in her shirt....nothing!
Google Vin Dicarlo's Escalation ladder. It's older than your first pube, but still functional. READ R.C.'s comprehensive texting guide. Send her a short [flirty] message. Example: "I had a dream about you last night, but it's embarrassing."
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