Hello, everyone i am lucas originally from brazil living in uk and I want to be able to learn the tecnics, after a loving relationship with the most amazing woman we were able to experience life in open way, however after our first meeting with another couple that went great she noticed how powerful she can be and decided to manipulate me to have me off the house as this way she could have all the fun for herself. Now because of our bond with a child we have to see each other often and she tells me about her stories already after only 2 weeks wow it really turns me on I like that however after I give this time to her she doesn't even want me getting closer as she knows my attraction for her and as I struggle to find another womans to date I guess was her incentive to push me to go find new ways to get my own. In the meanwhile she's says there's nothing wrong with me caring on saying all the things that we have been planned during the relationship which we had to take a break after our child born and then now she's enjoying the pleasures with other mans which I am really happy for her i am frustrated because we only had one couple swap and after that as I said she realised the power she had. After that meeting we started to plan more about our sexual adventures but as horny as we were she got pregnant and started to act differently, after the birth she continue to act in state always comparing me as her dad (not sure how to take it as she is not very happy with her dad but this due to an infant trauma as she got her dad waking with his friends and and she was doing her thing too and he acted ignoratly.)
I wish to learn the persuasion and be able to use wisely as I enjoy sex like any human being but it seems so difficult to get it... I try to be social but I am not that kind of person I am really quiet and like to meet like minded people to connect in a deeper level with meditation yoga and exercise all of which I stopped because my confidence went completely down not knowing exaltly why she hardly had sexual interaction with me after our child and now she's going wild because I can take care of our child on weekends and on weekdays I got work this way she have all the time she needs.
If I sound desperate is because I kind of am 3 years of it the firs was the the last two which is the time that we became parents my sex life was destroyed...this relationship turned into a mild loving relationship...

When she talks that she loves just to have sex and now sleeping with other guys tha she says thethey like to be friend and have casual and when I say I want to be your friend too and have casual I feel like I am begin and that's the last thing I want to give to her as she have total control of the relationship now knowing that I love our child... I have no clue if she's is doing this with me because of her pain from her dad as she got hurt and want to get back to man because when we met I persuade her to an open relationship as this was a bigthing for her and now everything twisted, where did I go wrong? How can improve?

I don't think I can help you but maybe a general tip in life is to cut your text in parts so my eyes don't explode from seeing this giant wall of text

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