| The reason i ask is because if you have anxiety when approaching, then it's going to be hard for you to he direct with her, state your intentions, and connect with her because your to up in your head thinking about what to say next that you cant listen to her and live in the moment. You need to live in the moment and have fun and find something you can relate to. Ill post some social freedom excersises you can do to obliterate your anxiety so talking with women will seem easy at the bottom of this message.
Here is my advice for approaching and conversating with her. When you stop a girl 2 things are important. 1. Get in front of her, do not touch her right away, i always let her pass me or run from behind and jump in front of her and hold my hands up.
2. SMILE always have a giant smile on your face shes going to look at you to make sure things are ok a smile will help u and assure her shes fine. And use a preframe to catch her attention and make her listen example; *Hi, dont freak out...im not crazy i just wanted to tell you that) (hi dont freak out im not a robber ( (hi, i dont mean to be racist but) your extremely gorgeous and i had to come meet you.
Next is finding out about her and what shes passonate about. Treat her like a friend but be curiois about her, like if she was god and you got to ask him questions what would u want to know. Curiosity is powerful and it will make conversation easier. Find something you can relate to but she should always be talking more then you. If your doing most of the talking your not finding whats interesting about her.
If you have specific questions or situations i can help guide you.
Ok here are scial freedom excersises.
Practice all of these exercises on girls you find attractive (the first few you do you may do on anyone)
(warm up) as your walking around town put a smile on your face and as you pass people smile at them, point at them, and say "bananas"
1.What's the time- Act like you are deaf, go up to someone point at your wrist and mouth "what time is it" (but dont speak) After the tell you turn around and scream as loud as you can "IT'S (what time they told you)!!! and walk away without looking at them.
2. The pick- Go up to a stranger or a group of people and ask directions to some place. Make up a story about how your looking for a gift for someone because its their bday or something. As your asking them and talking to them stick your finger in your nose and pick it. Make sure they see you and really pick it. At the end of the conversation say "thank you so much for your help" and try to shake their hand WITH the hand you picked your nose with. For extra fun leave your finger shoved up your nose while u talk to them and don't take it out until the end.
3. The Clinic- Like the previous exercise stop a girl and tell her you need help with directions. When she asks to where say your looking for a std clinic. After she responds or as she walks away from you say "It really burns when I pee" If she is still standing in front of you ask if she wants to hang out. If she actually agrees then you can tell her it was a joke and proceed to hang out (but I have never seen that happen)
4. The Long pause- Approach a girl on the street, smile, and say "Hi, I don't mean to be to straight foreword but, uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....." and just hold that uhhhhhh until she walks away.YOU DO NOT walk away first. after doing this 4 or 5 times add "I think your really cute" on the end as she walks away.
5.Bragging- Go up to a girl and just brag outrageously, for example, "hi there, I just wanted to say I own 5 houses. I also own 3 yachts. See that building over there, yeah I own that building. I actually skydived in here today I'm a pretty awesome guy. I have so much money. Get at least 5 brags in before you leave. NEVER tell them these are pranks live with the cringe.
Remember these are harmless and you'll discover people don't care, no on is really paying attention to things you do, and your not bothering anyone. You'll actually be giving people excitement to their boring lives and a story to tell. After you do these exercises for a full day message me and tell me where you are.
Also all this was typed on a phone, i apologize for bad grammar and typos.
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