im a 20y old dude from portugal, i study in university, im in 2 year.
i dont have any friends, i had a gf for a lot of years and i feel she stole my social skills, and now i feel im a weird dude, i cant really fit in any groups.
i joined this forum so i can improve my social skills and get some dates and eventually find a girl to form a family with.
i dont really like clubs or parties, except comcerts, but they are usually expensive and i dont own a car.
i want help in making MALE friends, and to fit in a group, and to be able to lose my anxiety when talking to hot girls.
the previos year of university was a massive wake up call for me. i met a girl, she had all the traits both fysical and mental i like in girls,and i got an extreme ctush on her, she was introverted like me, wasnt much into clubing or partying, and at first, we started to develop a really good comnection, but then i was starting to obsess a lot over her, i flooded her with texting, and in person i kinda felt awkward and blocked.
in social networks we spended hours until late night talking and next day in class i felt a bit intimidated or whatevrr.
then, one of my friends in class, a bigger nerd than me, hes a virgin, unlike me (somehow i feel like one sometimes. even tho i fucked like a rabbit since my 15 with my ex) he started to develop a great comnection with her, they barely saw each other, but when they would see each other, they would play, banter, joke with each other , and i would feel like a looser, frustrated, i even cried one day when i got home, asking, why? i am smart, i am a decent guy , but why cant i develop a vomnection with dat girl...
well, this would get worse, so i decided that interacting with both of them was a toxic thing for me, my grades was low,and i felt socially isolated. for a time a hated them both.
then i started to realize the problem is me, not them. and i thank the universe for that wake up call, i was being too needy and was being too nice, and was not approaching her phhsically, i was basically a loser and still am.

i want to fix myself, and i need help. in my country i doubt there are any communities like this, and getting a wingman is probably impossible.
i want to feel comfident and get into god mode, turn off my social a ciety for good, and do what i want without giving a shit...
logically i know i can be like that, but mentally i feel blocked, its like my subconscious is blocking me.
any guides, books, tips, tricks? pls

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- English is not my main language, so don't mind my mistakes pls.