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Hello, all
I'am in Miami, Fl. I'am 22 years and I truly need help. I've never had a girlfriend in my life and have never been with a woman, I've never had a date, never had a girl touch my balls and have never had a legit make out. I've tried talking to and approaching girls but I feel like it goes nowhere. I usually don't get the number especially if she's hot. A couple of friends of mine who has seen me approach say I have the balls but not the flirt. It probably doesn't help that many of my closer friends have said that I have high standards. But I can't help it it's who I'am attracted to. And I may not be a 100 percent sure of how I'am going to attract these females but I definitely intent to attract women I'am highly attracted to in my life. It is a burning desire for me.
It may not help that Miami girls are known for being hard on guys by being stuck up and hard to talk to and I unfortunately haven't gotten the chance to travel around much.
I've read part of The Game by Neil Strauss and have read part of Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.
I've considered looking for a guru but I don't know. I've hear many are fake. Any advice on what I can do fellas besides reading around?? Thanks.
Fellow Floridian in the house! and I just want to say congratulations my friend, You have made a great step toward bettering your life with women, and your quality of life overall.
You're are not as far behind as you think, twenty two is a great age to get into the game, so get that thought all the way out of your head, your here now starting, and you can, and will grow, with the right practice. You have amazing years coming ahead, Get excited ''The Game'' is limitless.
I use to live on south beach, and everyone knows, not only do some of the most gorgeous models from around the world live here,( and tan nude on the beach) but there are also some of the most high value women here also.
You have to fucking ''Own It'' own who you are and be very confident, I have seen Cuban's just off the banana boat, pull some of the most beautiful women on south beach, why? Because they just don't give a fuck, they have nothing to lose, and they live life to the fullest, because they know where they came from, and it can't get any worse.
South beach is all about ''Status'' and ''Confidence'' and having confidence shows status.
You have to believe you belong, and come off like this is what you do, this is how you live, all day, every day. This is nothing to you, you get beautiful women like her regularly, come in with a mind-set like this and it will show. Plus you don't have to fake it, you can put in the practice and live it, Congruence.
The beautiful thing about Miami also is there are so many women coming in and out non-stop it is one of the Hubs of international travel in the world. You have women from every country imaginable coming to Miami. So you don't really have to worry about the '' Miami Girls Are Hard'' Mentality get it out of your head, it doesn't exist, most Miami girls are from different countries or different states, unless your gaming in like Kendall, or a certain neighborhood.
It's good you have balls, that way Approaching won't be hard for you, But that doesn't necessarily mean your going to get anywhere with it. Don't be that guy that isn't scared to approach every single women, and do it the same way, never growing skills, never learning, and never evolving. I've seen it plenty of times and after hundreds of approached without success they still think, they're getting some where, and know what they are doing. they keep chugging on delusional and one track minded.
Now you need to get this never been with a women crust off of you. You may not realize it or see it, but you could possibly be coming off as a guy that doesn't get many girls or a lot of pussy, or high quality women. High quality women, will fuck with guys, that are use to fucking high quality women like them.
For example: I was talking to a couple awesomely fun, and beautiful girls on the beach that worked at hooters. I ''Insinuated'' how one of my ex girlfriends worked at hooters(she did) and she was on the calendar at the hooters downtown. I didn't ''Brag'' I tied it in naturally to the conversation, they instantly recognized me as a guy of value that fucks, and dates women like them.
Don't listen to the number of approaches, numbers don't always help, it's about practicing the right skills from the beginning . Things like body language, verbal skills, what you do and don't do. Read up on these and focus on building them up and adding them to your personality.
I use to lean in and be so committed, when approaching and talking to girls, now I lean back, as if at any second I'm going to leave, I let them commit, just these little things add benefits to your whole repertoire.
You are attracted to high quality women that are most likely dimes, congratulations we all are. There's nothing wrong with gaining experience, experience in the field is key to growth and getting women of your dreams. Working your way up helps, fuck a little fivey, or even a seven, start growing that confidence and experience(don't get stuck there) and ride that cloud. Having options does wonders to your game knowing you got pussy on the side make's you less needy, and desperate to get a girl.
There's nothing to prove, no one cares if that girl disses you and you shouldn't either, it doesn't matter the only thing that matters is you learn from it and get better realize from it what you can do better, go right around the corner in literally seconds, re-calibrate, approach another girl and keep it moving and growing. So many guys in the beginning get hung up, and down on their selves in every little UN-successful interaction. Do not dwell on those only on what approach you could have tried or how you could have came off, in that situation, its all about getting to the end game. Instantly understand form a game plan of what your going to try next time to get more success when that same thing happens again.
Churn and burn.
Stop trying to talk to girls like your friends, or be like your friends with women. This is the game, pick-up, seduction, learn the advanced tricks to the trade that most regular, every-day guys, don't even know. Surpass them, you are now apart of the pick-up community use that to your advantage. Its a upper hand in the world of women.
Clean up your look, and wardrobe this may be overlooked and seem less important but it can give you instant results. It's about putting a whole package together, a whole arsenal of tools at your finger-tips to achieve your goals.
Look,body language(how you carry yourself and come off), verbal game(what you say and dont say and how you say it), belief system(what you feel you deserve, confidence, understanding), whipping your fucking dick out(taking action when it matters)
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