Hi I'm NAM,

Just one quick technical question, maybe it's been asked but I am not backreading the whole forum and presumably there are people here who are more familiar with the forum than others , do any ladies ever come here? How often and why do they come?

If any ladies are reading this and fancy having a chat about all this stuff, I'm a good ear and totally open to discussing this stuff with you open and honestly. I'm all about been honest. I'm a qualified professional and provide helpful advice to women on relationship issues and how to manage bad past experience to create a better future. I operate calls on a free for half an hour basis. Please only post your contact number and personal details in my private messages and not the forums. Stay safe!

Only joking, I can't be bothered messaging any more women hehehe

I don't play the game with girls to be honest, and I ain't slept with thousands of women. Low hundreds somewhere, and every one was special, some more so than others. Really. I love meeting people, and when you get really close to someone it can be great. It can be terrible too but hey ho that's life. I came from a small town in England which had a 4 to 1 male to female ratio, making the dynamic interesting but I played on my own terms and did okay. I grew out of my teenage years and went to a 10 to 1 female to male ratio uni which presented a whole different set of issues!

I'm a bit more mature now, mid thirties, married to an RB, drive a sports car,well educated with post grads from a really good uni, play in a decent band, organise music events don't work all the hours god sends anymore, run a few seminars (not on this though but would be interested in looking at opportunities) I got an SHB mistress, ex glamour model, singer, thick as fuck. My mistress and my wife know about (im brutally honest) and hate each other. Ideally I would rectify this but its complicated and very complex, you are not just asking a woman to give you a number but change her whole belief system. Twice.

To me - I'm all about the l word, and its different connotations, I like the real hard true stuff that you can't get often. I love that feeling the l word gives you, really powerful, whether you approach it from a mathematical, biochemical or philosophical perspective it's a complicated, deep rooted, interesting. If I am honest my life revolves around it, it is like an addiction for me. I don't want to quit. Its not even the sex, tho I like making women well you know...well I hope you do!* Its a bit about the acceptance, but really it is just that butterfly feeling I chase. Sad I know, but its my addiction, and I don't want to stop.

I never knew a community existed doing this stuff till I happened on Strauss's book the other day which I'm reading at the moment. I mean there is just me an a few of my mates who used to go out and well you know, pull as we would say. I still like a flirt and I got my own sort of formula but my love life is complicated enough and I am sort of a bit more settled down, I still like meeting new people, especially girls. I am always respectful and decent. I try not to hurt people (even cockblockers and rivals hehe but hey if your my mate then I'm prob not interesting in that pretty blonde with the fit mate so maybe we could sort a win/win out eh but if your not my mate do one innit before I tell her what you up to and take you out the back door:P ) I broken a few hearts and had my heart broken. Been a bit of a ladies man has its own damnations, head benders, heart ache, mistrust, (it's all about the reputation in smaller towns hehe, get your culting out . But nothing gets you over an ex like your next!

I've come here really for a bit of a laugh, to do some networking and just have a poke round see if there is out interesting going on. If I see a game, I play only with myself to improve myself as a person, to be more attractive to people, to get people to like me more, to meet more people. To have more fun. I'm really interested in the psychology behind things from a purely professional point of view too.

I'm pleased to meet you.

Sooo I should probably demonstrate a little bit of prowess, but how?.... like I say I don't play the game but I done alreet for myself.

Here we go.

I don't tend to use chat up lines as such, they are hokey and don't work. I only ever had one which works sometimes, like everything no guarantee and it is all in the execution, obv has to be done confidently, and the walk up has to be right etc etc...but the line is this.

"Hey - Look, i'm not smooth enough for chat up lines, but (look up, play a bit coy, look her in the eye...then) I just thought you are really pretty and fancied a kiss" Then if you are smooth enough for chat up lines and it's right go for the kiss, if not it can be an icebreaker.

* "when you stake them, some shout and scream, some go quietly but all will try and take you with them." Edgar Frog - the Lost Boys.