Hey guys first time poster here: I'm just wondering what's keeping me back in my game to the next level in terms of efficiency of leads into my funnel (not waste too much time meeting women to get quality into my funnel as I have a large quantity but I don't like many of the girls especially the upper middle class blonde women that act like Katherine Heigl-I would refuse someone like that sex)-both in terms of a lack of brattiness and more hotness-I live in Omaha, NE so that may be a problem as well

I feel like my game is 70%-80% there but needs tweaks probably-perhaps my vibe needs to be defined more and better strategies of broadcasting my complexities of states and value as a man? Not sure

My Experience: I do have a girlfriend and have had about 5 girlfriends (I'm 28) all less than 3-6 months except my current which is 2 1/2 years. 2 summers I dated 5 bi-sexual lacrosse players at once-but I was just their boy-toy that they shared in from age 23-24

My first sexual encounter was age 20 when a girl forced herself on me (I was asleep and I woke up her on top of me forcing herself on me, it technically was sexual assault but I did think she was moderately attractive at least, but she held me down as she was stronger than me)

I have only slept with around 20 girls or so, but I have left over 40 girls lying naked in the bed and I refused sex, because I didn't like their vibe or the way they were seducing me-it seemed one sided-in terms of initiation and receiving-essentially too passive. I left those situations because they were overly feminine with their attraction-not that I like masculine women too much, I do like feminine women to a point but not when they get bratty/pouty, entitled SPAM, or want resources from me as a man-but it seemed like they didn't care that much about me just wanted to use my body for sex because they were bored, or they just assumed since I they were a woman that I had to do stuff for them and they didn't value me for simply existing as a man i.e. disposable male and off-putting conventional gender norms

Since highschool I have had well over 300 + make-outs, hj, bj's, but it is so inconsistent, also I don't want to do that really I like being monogamous much more like I am now, but when I'm not monogamous it takes me 2-3 years it seems like to meet girls I actually want to see again as most I don't

Current Strategy:
Demographic focusing-certain environments that have girls I like-I find gay bars, church groups, meetup.com groups that have fantasy aspects to them like comics or anime (although I don't play video games, or read comics-but I love superheroes and the ocassional anime), art groups, i.e. to go where my target market is-the reason why I'm mostly compatible with INFP and ENFP types, I have a hard time connecting with sensors and I hate small talk, but I try as I've had 10,000 + hours of sales experience I forced myself to have

The girls that I've dated have come 90% from club game adn they've actually been great girls, mostly from more upscale bars or gay bars-especially with dancing as I'm an incredible dancer

Dating-usually lasts a while-typically I ask girls to join me at whatever I'm already doing, or a quick coffee date, 2nd date is usually dancing (finishing up-as I'm an incredible dancer), zoo or park or outdoor free concert or something like that

Mack phase-typically for 2-6 months i date 2-6 girls during this time and I'm screening and filtering girls from my dating funnel to get to know them better (I obtain from sex but I fool around still to gain trust and am completely honest during this time that I'm not monogamous and deciding if I want more long term but no sex as I'm very scared of STDs) sometimes girls drop off (never angry I've never had that happen probably because I'm radically candid)

Note: I do the macking phase to get respect, to get my girlfriends know that I'm a high value guy that has options and comes from a position of power (BATNA-best alternative to negotiated agreement), as I hate it when a girl tells the story of how they met and she says something like 'after he persisted I finally gave him a chance' which she's disparaging his masculinity and value in doing-which I would immediately break up with her if that was her frame

Monogamy-I'm currently in this phase for the last 2 1/2 year with my current girlfriend, I limit my exposure (because I'm building an investment business currently) to 2x-3x/wk for no more than 4 hrs at a time typically

Break-up and repeat-which may happen at some point

I feel like my above strategy is the most rational-the weakest link is in finding the 'right' girls to initially attract, although during the later phases girls tend to really like me a lot it seems like and i've never gotten broken up with before, most girls say they might want to marry me

My views on marriage which i talk about with the girls are: Half of your shit is taken because you have a contract between you, her, and the state (I don't believe the state has any business in this as I'm an anarchist capitalist-think of ayn rand type libertarian but more free market than her) although I'm open to a lifelong religious commitment just not a government contract, I would leave for abuse (or if I ever have to use force to get her to listen to me for a big strategic decision such as a slap I would end it before it would get to that point) or infidelity-I define as either in mouth, ass, or vag, but her kissing someone is a cause for concern but I probably wouldn't end it for that


I'm deathly scared of her taking half of my shit for her not working for it with no utility back to me-unfair exchange (which can be the largest financial decision of my life and ruin my life), 70% of divorces are initiated by women # 1 reason-emotional dissatisfaction-so not really a compelling reason, 50% / 50% both men and women abuse rate-men are injured more than women b/c women use objects more, 70% of abuse is initiated by women, there are 98% of men in jail for not paying child support but less than 1% of women-but both parties do not contribute to the pot of support, 15% of children are illigitimate according to US and UK studies are not raised by biological father unwillingly-cuckhold, there are no abuse shelters for men even rate is 50% and higher injury and against the law for boys over the age of 13 to get help from domestic violence at these shelters (war against boys-children in my opinion)

Also i'm extremely picky b/c narcissism was removed from the psychology illnesses for women 2 years ago b/c it's so common-look it up

I'm still optimistic that I can attract the right type of girl for me-I have as well many times (around 5 times) but I had to meet 1,000's of women to do so as I screen very hard, also the attractiveness of my ideal woman hasn't been to the level I would consider the best-although most guys would rate the girls I date as a 7 or 8 and in shape (low BMI and bodyfat %)

Since it's one of the largest life decisions of my life it needs careful preparation and I have studied the subject for 1,000's of hours and years of practice b/c of the reality/facts

My Personality:
Myers Briggs Type Indicator: INTJ mastermind, rational Keirsey, Socionomics-ENTJ strategic sub-type
Enneagram: 8w7, tri-type-8w7, 5w6, 3w4 gestalt-summation-solutions master, instinct-self preservation, sexual
Adverse Childhood Experience Score: about a 9 or 10 (depending on the test, I had a horrific childhood) I've done 1,000's of hours of psychology work to remedy this-i'm 28 right now
I could name 50 + other personality types that I am but I don't want to bore you too much, just give enough context/background

I have the remnants of a chronic childhood illness as well-although I'm mostly cured, but I've almost died twice from it and doctors told me growing up to hold out hope because I would most likely die by 18, but I have a much more mild case than they thought of it

Certifications: NLP Master practitioner, Neuro Semantics Master Practitioner, Milton Eriksonian Hypnosis, Sedona Method, dozens of meditation techniques, and Integral Theorist (Ken Wilbur and spiral dynamics), non-violent communication, etc.. and dozens others

Read 2,500 + books on finance, investing, psychology, sciences, business, economics, philosophy, health, relationships, history, etc... and 10,000's of articles on the previous subjects-as I've read 4-6 hrs/day for 12 years and a minimum of 1-2 books/day

Work: Accounting Intern, then personal banker and investment coordinator, sales Manager and consultant for 5 years, during this time I did job coaching, marketing consulting, project management, and tried to start around 20 + internet business ideas although I made $30k + sometimes I spent more on new ideas maybe a net loss after competing companies took market share from me, so i stopped my internet businesses, hedge fund algorithm programming and have sold of 5 firms, and currently logistics and working on my own investment systems

Sports previously played: Hip Hop National Championship Qualifier at 16, Junior Olympics Power lifter qualified at 17, Nationally ranked wrestler-undefeated 14-16-so for an INTJ i have pretty good extraverted sensing, but it's inferior and very fierce, I currently do a variation of minimum effective dose Doug McGuff big 5 workout 2 day split and the Power Lung


My Main Sticking Points I think:
Streaminglining and finding 'where' my ideal girls are as when I break up with a girl it takes me 1,000 + girls to find one I remotely like and can see myself with and that gets me

More efficient dating process, and universal b/c I will start travelling-globe trotting soon and I would like psychological strategies and not cultural ones

Generally meeting people-as I typically don't get much value from people in terms of connections or information that helps me toward my outcomes I find most conversation boring and a waste of time toward my ambitions, I know the whole dale carnegie thing be interested in others and like others-but I really don't like many people or think they can offer much value-maybe the trouble of reading 1,000's of books and growing skills-when I give my advice and strategies just in everyday conversation people ask if they can pay me for it a few thousand sometimes and say it's life changing and innovative but I dont want to mentor others as it's too much work-so my default is always no

Probably work on my style or emotional vibe and positive eco-system of emotions more-I have lots of sexual experience I feel like, but my results just aren't consistent enough when I'm single

Approach-I'm terrible at approaching and kinda consider it below me even though it's the cultural norm, I hate the idea of begging/grovelling and I'm not sure if i like them much to begin with either so I mostly manage to sleep with girls through my own variety of prize game with a non-chalant but extremely direct approach-such as like "Hi, I'm name" "Just to clear the air I find you very sexy just so you know why I'm here" or something like that, in a club I typically dance on the dance floor do non-verbals that get attention and get rapport sensually with each other's bodies w/out speaking for a while, and I only say yes if I get a 'Hell/Fuck yea!' response from her

My results from cold approach on the street is terrible-I have never met a girl I actually like from the street, even though I can easily get a number and a coffee date maybe 3 or 4 out of 10, I've met all of my girlfriends from the club which I do a variation of prize game, and raising my social proof value (I'm an introvert so it's not my favorite to do) but once I'm in my groove by the end of the night sometimes maybe 50% of the time I have 3-10 girls messaging me from behind with my shirt off and I'm looking like the old spice man with girls humping me on the ground or lap dances in chairs, etc...-caucasian version-but I've never met a girl friend that way, haven't tried much online dating except for outsourcing like Tim Ferriss did to get 30 dates in a weekend and got burnt out from all of the split variable testing it took to do that

Indifference turns me off completely and I don't want to see them again, especially if I have social proof and they just saw me with another girl and now they want me (happens all of the time with my friends that are girls) but in previous conversations they were dissing me, now they're begging to hang out with me and get sexual because they saw the vibe I had with other girls-they usually either perceive me as too intelectual to be good sexually but once they see me dance it's the opposite, and if they see me dance they think I'm just a fling and not intellectual, or at a dinner party as just funny/cocky and not boyfriend material, there are 100's of states and dynamics I have-typically too complex to define-but that's hard to communicate that during my approaches

It seems like I should be awesome/excellent at pick-up but I'm not to the level I think I should be at-either with the girls in the looks department even though most of the girls I date are 7-8 and very in shape they're not pitbull music video girls or Nicki Minaj or Kim Kardashian or anything like that, just a respectable quality, and I'm not good at the efficiency of meeting people

What's needed to get my game to the next level? I'm maybe near advanced intermediate maybe, I know I'm not advanced probably although some nights you might think I am as when I was dating 5 bi-sexual lacrosse players adn making out and fingering all of them in the club, but I feel like I'm missing something more advanced like I'm 70% there, but a few tweaks might make all of the difference

Help me out please, thanks
Cheers