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Dear All,
I had a new date last Saturday with a Chinese girl. The conversation was fine and I feel that I have big chances. After Saturday I didn't send her a message, because I thought to not be pushy and desperate. I would like to ask you on how I will proceed with her in order to be more attractive to me. In other words how I will make the conversation pleasant and interesting to get in the seduction stage. I don't want to see me friendly
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Couple of things to think about here. First thing is if you haven't messaged her or talked to her by now you need to. I understand not wanting to come off as too needy or pushy and giving it a day or so. It's been almost 3 now, so I think your point is proven but if you wait too long then she might have written you off.
There is a fine balance with messaging girls after dates. Everyone is a little different in my mind but here is how I have done it in the past. One once you get back home from a date or back to the car if you parked a ways away or something text her then. She just got done with your time together she is emotionally at the highest point she will be, message her to let her know you had a good time with her. Nothing fancy just quick and simple. If you can reference an inside joke or moment you shared that was funny then definitely do that. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone else but you two.
After that I agree to give it a day or two unless she initiates contact. Then you need to start talking to her again.
You tell us in your post that after Saturday you think you have big chances. Well how much time did you spend together on Saturday? What types of things did you talk about? What things did you do you felt to build attraction? Did you sexualize the conversation at all? Was she receptive to that? Did you all have physical contact (kino) if so what kind? How much? There is a lot to consider here.
Sounds like you may still need to build some attraction but I don't know I wasn't there. You may need to still do some things...
If you are still just talking about weather and general conversation that isn't deep then you are going to really going to talk to her and build more rapport with her getting to know her, who she is, and what she has been through. She needs to know the same about you also before enough comfort and familiarity is established to consider moving towards seduction.
For some women if you go seductive too quick then they just figure you are only after one thing and will want nothing to do with you. For others they are okay with that. Depends on the girl. To really be able to help you we have to develop the situation with you more.
Help tell us a bit more to help out please.
CHAT
