I am 23 and new to the game. After several years have gone by from my first relationship, which was approximately 4 years long, I am interested in getting into the game. A quick summary of my last relationship, which was coincidentally my only long relationship. She did many things that left me heartbroken, which as we all know, turns too numb. I am numb from almost all emotions and think that will work out in my favor. Where does one start? Ironically, I have been told I am a very attractive man. Actually, girls can usually approach me first at a bar, I am 23, about 6 foot baseball player build, Italian. No, I didn't come here to brag by any means because as you are all reading this wondering, what the fuck did he come here for, there is an underlying issue. Due to the nature of the cheating and emotional abuse I sustained in my last relationship, it has left me with a huge lack of confidence. I can fake the confidence to a certain point, but when it is MY MOVE, I do not know where to start or how to start. I don't care what people think of me, so that's what usually motivates me to try an opener or two. The problem I think I lack , is strictly the confidence and approach. I always trap myself, I come off too strong sometimes, giving her the upper hand. I know this may seem like I am rambling but I am just trying to convey what I think my problems are. I am open to any comments, suggestions or criticism as I enter the game. Thanks

Rogue

Rogue, I am 44. Three months divorced. My manhood has been dragged through the dirt to such and extent, I am receiving spousal support... in Texas. You may have heard Texas doesn't do that, and you're right... but if it's good for the geese, it's good for the gander, and it's about time the men win one.

I met and took home my ex-wife in Sept. of '98. I was 27. I too am an attractive man. But I want you to know that I suffer all the same confidence issues, think about it. For 17 years my main job was not having sex with other women. I was seduced early on. I was "raped" at about year 10. She engaged me sexually without my consent. Yes, I enjoyed it, but I began to make myself unattractive to women, anything in an attempt to maintain faithfulness to my bride. I used over-flirting. I didn't realize that I was doing this, but I did notice that if I had sex with a woman, no one knew... but if I over-flirted she would gasp, and have a story, and create a safe space for me/us to be platonic.

Anyway 17 years of, "do not have sex with anyone", not to mention at the end as she was flaunting her sexuality and dating, and sleeping around, I was still committed. I don't know how, and I can't imagine anyone being interested. So, let us begin our journey together, know that 23 is a great time to learn, and 44 is just as good. Good Luck, I'll be rooting for you.