Hello community!

Dear all, I am here to start a new turning point in my life and as with all adventurers, I need a little guidance as to where and how to start. Obviously, my problems are with women. I'm not exactly clueless with women, but nowhere as good as I want to be. So below is my story, a little about myself and I hope y'all can help me get started with this!

SO...! I'm a 20 year old uni student. I've always been popular with women in my life, not as a lover anyway. I had lots of female friends, but I was in the nice guy ergo friendzone category for most. I'm not a virgin and I made out with a couple girls in my lifetime, but I've always been single and I'd like to actually get somewhere with women.

I've watched a few youtube videos and stuff like RSD, Simple Pickup and PUA Training, but I'm so new to this that I don't even know where to start. I'll try to summarise how most of my endeavors with women go and I hope you guys can help me point out where I should start. My goal is (like most guys) to be 'that guy'. we all know who 'that guy' is. The one who gets plenty of women, choices for dating and then some! I know it's hard work but I'm tired of getting nowhere.

Looks wise, I don't think I have too much to offer, but I hope this won't affect my game too much. I'm like 5'7, thin frame, but I used to do MMA, so I have a very athletic look. I have a babyface, but apparetly a square jaw, which makes things better. That's pretty much it. I dress sharp, no cheap haircuts, I shower, I train, so I take care of myself.

I think my problem lies somewhere between my inner game and my action taking habits. I was bullied quite a lot in my early years, which hasn't helped in terms of confidence. I've worked really hard on it and I don't take shit anymore, but my experiences with girls I wanted to bang gave me anxiety when I try to escalate. Here's an example of how usually my interaction goes:

I approach the girl indirectly most of the time. We talk, I get flirty although I have to force it a little. I ask her for her number and she either gives it to me or makes some excuse (boyfriend, don't feel comfortable or something else). If I get the number, I wait a couple days and in the afternoon I text her something that's not just "Hi". I usually open with 'SPAM or Superman!?'. It usually gets an answer and I can go from there. I try to set up a date with as little texting as I can, but most girls flake! (This IS a sticking point and it happens a LOT to me!) In the end, if we meet up, I actually assess the girl on her brains, I try to find out if she has a dream she wants to achieve one day and so on. I come from a very touchy country, so the KINO is very natural to me. It's always the escalation that I miss out on. For some reason, in the moment I never make the move to kiss or take things forward. It might be the fear of rejection or the fact that the first three girls I kissed, I always got attacked by some psycho drug dealer ex-boyfriend. I guess there is a little fear of escalating. Then when it doesn't work out, I get mad at myself and beat myself up. Then I get better and try again with another girl.

I don't really go game in clubs, because I've found I have very little success in clubs. (You tell me why).

I hope someone experienced can point me where I need to start. I want to change from being some random guy she went on a date once to being that guy she can't forget about. I want abundance, to have my pick. So I'm asking you lot. Sorry for the wall of text.