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I'm the guy who didn't go to his prom, didn't have his first kiss until he graduated high-school, didn't lose his virginity until University, didn't have his first girlfriend until age 22 and didn't have his first long-term girlfriend until he was 24.
I was with my girlfriend for 2 years and she left me on New Years due to a combination of mental health issues, a desire to move away, and my failure to overcome her abandonment issues (I didn't move in fast enough, didn't subscribe to promising forever and a day). I am definitely experiencing some one-itis with her as she truly did embody mostly everything I had ever wanted in a girl but alas, we can't control someone and they make their decisions.
I'm delving into the "seduction" community because I was handed a copy of 'The Game' and was an avid watcher of the show 'Keys to the VIP' where I got to watch Cajun Spice work, that was where I got my motivation and only after that was I able to alter my "score" from 3 (A pick-up at a club, a short-term girlfriend and a cousin of my friends girlfriend) to the 10 that I have today. I only got to about day 5 in 'The Game' when I met my girlfriend at University. I'm anticipating starting from the beginning with the daily missions since I had success with it originally and I do need to change my mental frame while overcoming approach anxiety/reluctance to physically escalate for fear of rejection.
After the girlfriend and I split up, the apartment was hers, so I had to move back home, I lost my job as an insurance salesman (I hated it). At the moment I'm enrolled to start my Human Resources Management training in September, the goal is to graduate, get a career, solid income, so that I can get my own place. I know I'm starting from a disadvantage but I'm willing to slowly learn so that when I achieve those life goals, I can really start looking for the perfect girl to share my life with. My goal isn't really to lay a bunch of girls, it's just to hone my skills, to get into opportunities, where I have the necessary skills, mind-frame and ability to attract the right girl when she comes along. I can have fun in the mean-time.
My sticking points behind physical escalation and approach anxiety is that I don't feel that I'm a physically attractive guy (I do not fare well on online dating/Tinder). While I am 6'2, athletic build (go to the gym 3-4 days a week, I play hockey as a goaltender and I'm a drummer), I don't feel I have that very attractive face that girls go for. I've changed my hair-cut to a better look that suits my head shape, I'm going to work on getting a tan, bought some products for better skin, grooming habits have been strong, I'll get some teeth whiteners to help with that as well, starting to alter my diet. Will be looking at Mens fashion trends, how to dress for my body, etc. to get the rest of my look. I'm hoping that I can go from a 6 to a 7. That should give me a decent chance with the type of girls I go for (I'm actually not really into the bomb-shells, I like dark-haired girls that have that Indy chick/scene girl type of look going for them.. I like cute over hot).
I'm going through a lot of the guides on here. I appreciate any advice, feedback, or direction on where to start, what to read and what to learn. I have a few months of time on my hands and I prepare to absorb/attempt as much as I can between now and when I'm back at college. Which is when I think my social life will take off again.
I think you need to change your style a lot. You can pick some street style. Specially with natural look. Which will be attract girls a lot.
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