I just changed my signature and I want to share something about myself.

I realized, that I have been doing pickup for 10 years now. Only recently I have been able to flat-out kiss a girl after having talked to here for about 10 min..

At first I started going out every Saturday, taking care of what I wore, watching closely for my grooming. So I went to the city and the first time I approached a girl in the library. I was totally inhibited. But I managed to get her number. Then I called and she said "but you take care of me, when I get lost". I didn't get that sentence but I just replied with "Yes, of course". Then I was waiting at the promised restaurant for two hours without her showing up. And of course, having said beforehand that we were going to be two people, everybody knew what was going on. Today a smartphone would have solved that; either she didn't find it(unlikely) or she wasn't feeling like showing up.

Then for years I forced myself to go out every single Saturday, and at the same time I went to the gym and tried to manage my challenging studies. Only rarely I went to clubs, most of the time I went out to the street and did daygame.

But I very slowly progressed. Well in fact, recently I found an old audio cassette of me that was meant as a motivational cassette. A very timid and deeply insecure voice shouted "You can do that" and similar phrases. It is very uncomfortable to listen to, to say the least.

Last July, I started going out daily. Every single day I go out and approach at least one girl. I think I progressed more in the year 2014 than I have ever progressed before.

I thought to myself: why exactly didn't I do that before? And as always with those questions, I did not have the answer. Just like the answer to the question, why I still have approach anxiety. Comparing myself to others especially within that timeframe, I progressed enormously slowly.

Even though it is a well-known fact in the community, that you cannot solve a problem on the same level it was created, and that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is called insanity, they anyway recommended me doing the same things, newbies would get. And of course it didn't produce any usable result.

This is why it upsets me when people write things along the lines of "later, you will accomplish that, as a beginner blahblah", the exact same phrases they used when I was starting out.

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I have been doing pickup since 1st of March in 2005.